Bordering On Magnificent 24 HOURS

Bordering On Magnificent PENCIL SKIRTS

Bordering On Magnificent PLAN B (have one)

Bordering On Magnificent CONTRIBUTIONS

What can I contribute?

What do I have to offer today?

What have I given in the past?

What difference
does the contributions you have given
in the past
make in the long run?????

When someone dies,or moves away, or changes jobs,
their personal history dies with them for the most part.

Some times we kid ourselves into thinking that
the things that we do will be remembered after we are gone...

For the most part no one else really knows your history...
everyone is too busy with their own lives to remember the highlights of
even their closest companions on the earth,
or to discuss them for very long after their death,
or even while they are still alive and kickin'!

How often do you say
"REMEMBER WHEN YOU..."
or
"REMEMBER THE TIME WE..."
or
"REMEMBER THE WAY_______ USED TO_________"
(fill in the blanks with your own favorite memories)

Why do people continue to buy and give "default" gifts for others like
bath soaps and body gels and things that are scented and flowery and stuff
with out even knowing the scents and things that others like or really dislike and are even allergic to???

Isn't a real gift
one that leaves the person feeling that they are really
"known"

Wouldn't we do better to invest more time with our loved ones
getting to know them better and continuing to make memories,
than to waste money and time finding stuff that they will only want to re-gift?

I am not the best at remembering details,
but I want to Rock The Space I'm In with others
by taking the time to be a
"witness to their lives" and their personal history,
even if it is just sharing a remembrance of one of their personal successes from the past to let them know that their awesomeness has not been forgotten!

Scott, Tina, Frank, Jim, Victor,Rob D, Derrek,Jeff, Rob,Norman,Ralph,Steve,Nader,Jim,
and also my other awesome friend Dave.

These are some of the amazing people who "came before" and accomplished great things working as a team, and who often spoke of the mighty exploits of those that came before them.

Who is the band of warriors in your life that you have shared mighty exploits with???
They could be in your Family, Friendships, Business Partners, or Volunteer Groups.

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN by calling one or two of them up today, and remind them of their place in your history and in your heart.

Post a comment here about one of YOUR warrior friends
so we can all celebrate them.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent RESPECT

Who doesn't want to be liked?

Being liked seems to be near,
or at the top of many peoples lists.

Bob Burg says
"People will do business with those that they know. like, and trust."

Being liked is a good thing.

But I have also found in my many years
"Rocking The Space I'm In". . .
that people in work situations at their job,
often worry about being liked by everyone,
rather than being respected by the essential people.

Who do you RESPECT where you work?
We should show respect to everyone,
but who are the essential people
that you admire and actually have respect for?

These are generally those who are problem solvers not blamers.

This is the person who gives you the TOOLS and INFORMATION
to do the job successfully.

This person does not walk in "mouth first"
but rather; enters a situation,
with their eyes and ears, observing...
usually many minutes before they are even noticed.

You do not find them gossiping about others,
because they are far to busy
finding solutions and working on situations.
The person who is worthy of RESPECT
is the one who will go TO you with a concern.

They are the ones who invite comments
which seek resolution or solutions,
they are not into negative whining and pessimism.

I want to be more and more each day
a person who is worthy of respect
by the way I RESPECT others.

I don't really want to be "liked" by everyone...
I desire and earn the respect
of the essential people in my life
by growing each day,
and learning from what those whom I respect
have taught me over the years.

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN BY:
RESPECTING the Essential ones in your life,
AND RESPECTING YOURSELF!!!
REMEMBER...
You are NOT 5 years old!
You can not "Get in Trouble" at work...
You can only get "fired"

Loose the fear!!!
Live Fully!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent MOVEMENT

Are you constantly moving???
Are you always going places but not quite getting somewhere?
Some jobs entail moving or driving or traveling.
Even the job of being a mom has a lot to do with
being everywhere at once.

A really great way to move is Bike Riding.

Riding a bicycle in one direction,
ending up somewhere,
and turning around and riding straight back.
over and over
every day,
is a good way to break the flow of "running around"

By doing this,
you can get used to looking for the bumps in the road,
as well as observing the same scenery change every day.

You will begin to build up momentum and endurance each day,
and you may even begin to SWEAT!

(see prior posts about enjoying and celebrating SWEAT)

I know that "Running around in circles" as many people I have met call it...
gives about the same results in life as "Spinning our wheels".

I have personally seen the results of riding for endurance and speed,
and gradually beating my own best time, each time.
I believe this is worth getting up early for...
before the traffic clogs the roads...
and before others get in their cars
and begin "Spinning their Wheels"...

I recommend using a a walkman,
(ooops!!! I meant an MP3 player or IPOD I guess
I still remember cassette players)

Anyway... bring along some music that supports your goals and dreams,
even if it is the same songs every day!

I am getting back into this practice of riding in a straight line,
early in the morning,
for endurance and speed and conditioning my physical body
to run a clearly defined race
instead of just
"Running to the buffet to get another plate of crazy"

"For the next 3 to 5 business days"
ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN by
Moving With Purpose!
And let me know what this
"Empty Box Time" does for you!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering on Magnificent LIGHT

Who is it that makes your eyes light up??????????

Have you ever had someone's eyes "Light Up"
when YOU walked into a room???

Some People say that this is a universal experience needed for the very HEALTH of kids
and really all human beings

YESTERDAY at the day job,
I witnessed the mom of a new born (actually a 3 month old)

Looking at her son,
and smiling at him,

and talking to him,
and in a day and age where many moms are content
to plunk a dvd player in front of the face of a child
who is facing "away from them" in a stroller....
. . .THIS MOM...was ENGAGED with her baby!!!

She was letting him know his "SPACE IN THIS WORLD"

And by choosing to interact with him
in such an animated and loving way,
she is affirming that he is HUGE in HER world...
AND in THIS world!

He is SEEING and HEARING from this awesome mom,
that he is
LOVED
VALUABLE
WORTHWHILE
and NOT ALONE!

Eye contact is essential to growing a relationship.

Today...
Rock The Space You're In
by making eye contact
with
Your friends
your family
your kids
and yes even your clients and customers.

See if it makes a difference,
and then tell me about it!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

STRANGERS

Strangers meet and then they are not necessarily strangers any longer.
They may become acquaintances.
Then they may even become friends.
Sometimes they may even become loved ones.

It all depends on our perspective
as to what qualifies someone
to hold the position in our life that we give them.

Sometimes people will fill a certain spot in your life
that wasn't ever filled before.
Like a B.F.F. (Best Friend Forever)

Or you will meet someone who is a kindred spirit,
a person you can feel comfortable and happy with
as you share things that you are both excited about,
sometimes not even needing to talk,
sometimes finishing each others sentences
or even blurting out the same thing at the same time,

Maybe it is a person that holds a special place in your heart
just because they are fun to be with.
This is the person who helps you get away from it all by being
not only comic relief,but has common life experiences,
and may be a break from thinking about the daily chores of life.

Sometimes a person is special
just because of what you go through together, or get through together.
They may be the only person to "be there" when others aren't.

People will usually tell you
what part of the space they are in
that they want you to share.

Listen.

Not everyone is meant to be
in the same space,
at the same time.

Make an agreement with yourself to be clear
about what you want in a friendship.

If it is freedom, be honest.
If it is wanting a family to belong to...say so.
If you are just looking for fun and friendship,
don't play as if you want more.

This is not about male and female relationships exclusively,
it is about choosing to have people in your life,
and being in others lives,
in a way that is the best for everyone.

When you stay too long in something,
it can create resentment.
Bitterness can start to grow from unfulfilled
or unspoken expectations.

This is also what I call
"Going to get another plate of crazy from the buffet"

For the next 48 hours
ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN
by writing down the kind of person or persons
you would like to be friends with.

Think of the qualities
you would like to have in your traveling companions
on this life journey...

and also think about the personal qualities and interests
you would like to develop and share with others from your own life.

Life can be much better as you get clarity about
what you want,
and begin to attract those relationships you genuinely desire,
and lovingly let go of those which no longer are
or never were working.

Life is too short to simply exist.
Better to be in a space of your own and be content,
than sharing space out of habit.
Rock The Space You're In,
with those you truly want to do life with.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent HEALTH

I am enjoying SUMMER!

I have not yet given in to the thought that with cooler weather arriving

winter is also waiting in the wings.

Thinking way ahead is not my particular skill set.

I tend to live in the moment
or "Rock the Space I'm In"...now.

but I've developed an appreciation for wanting more
and planning for a future.

By living with less clutter,
there is room to do the really important
and even the more enjoyable things with my time.

We spent the evening with good people last night and even met some new ones.
After working hard all day,
I enjoyed the pleasure of relaxing with others.

Conversation yesterday at "the day job" about non essentials
such as "more clothing"
and "More Clutter" . . .
Conversation last night
about peoples lives and interests.

Health requires a balance.

talking...and quiet
movement...and stillness
clothing and no clothing. . .
no. . .
really.

There is a time for everything.
Even a time for feeling angry, and sad and fed up.
It is SO O.K. to speak out about the things
that frustrate hurt or just bug you.
It's actually MORE than O.K.
It is essential to HEALTH
to speak the truth.

I am finding that it is best to speak out to one
who can actually DO something about the situation.
Best of all to speak the truth
to the person who is creating the situation.

I am still experimenting and growing in this...
I've been better at letting it roll off.
But then again,
I have been putting some of the 74 pounds I lost 3 years ago,
back on.

SO. . .no more letting things "roll off"

Things really don't just roll off to "nowhere"
...they eventually roll under your skin and create discomfort...
and I believe...
Weight.

Lets "Rock The Space We're In" TODAY
by saying what we feel
and what we mean...
and letting the chips fall where they may.

I'm Finding that:

Those that love us will love and respect and understand us better,

those that don't
will be too busy
"getting themselves another plate of crazy from the buffet"
to care.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent INDIFFERENCE

What is the opposite of LOVE?

Most people would answer HATE.

I read this thought from the book
The Four Hour Work Week and TOTALY agree.
The opposite of LOVE is NOT "hate"

The opposite of LOVE, is INDIFFERENCE!

You can be passionate about hating someone.
You can be passionate about disagreeing with someone.

Either of these is preferable to being treated with indifference.

When we disregard others
when we act with indifference,
we are making a physical statement about their worth in our eyes,
when we Physically choose not to look at or acknowledge someone's presence,
we are sending the message that they do not exist in our space.

This can be a useful way to clear the space you're in
of people and energy that is not genuine or beneficial
especially when you have exhausted all other means of creating
a healthy space to rock.

It should not, however, be the first choice in most cases.

Giving people an OPEN door to walk in through can start with a smile,
or a sincere complement,
or simply acknowledging that we are glad
to be sharing space and even
literally breathing the same air.
I imagine that even those miners
who have been trapped for HOW MANY DAYS NOW?
are grateful for the companionship of those around them.


Who can we give that gift to????
How about THE NEXT PERSON WE ENCOUNTER AFTER READING THIS?

Rock the space you're in by focusing on someone you are sharing
your space at work at home at school
or the line at the grocery store with.


Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent

Just a thought. . .

Do you have a special phrase or saying that is uniquely YOU?

Go to: www.GoDaddy.com and Purchase the domain name for about $9.00.

That's it.

Just buy your favorite saying if it is available as a .com

You don't have to pay extra for hosting or anything...
You don't even have to use it right now...
but OWN your own words and ideas TODAY.

You can BE your own "Brand"

Much better to "Be You" than anything in this world.
This world needs YOU to:
ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN
By BEING YOURSELF!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent LIVING

Some people have alot. . .
some people have less. . .

I know some people who do real well
on less...
They have a way of making the most of everything.

I've had more
and not known what to do with it...
...how to make it last.

I've had less. . . .
and made it work.

Right now. . .
I Want More!

More is for doing things with. . .
like paying off debts and the kindnesses of others over the years.

More is for. . getting to be on the giving end
instead of merely trying to make the ends meet.

More is for having More than enough
for enjoying good food (like sushi) and adventures,
More comes in handy for starting new things (like a business)
and celebrating what was
(like taking a vacation with family or old friends)

What would I DO with MORE?

I would spend More of my time
in worth-while ways...
EVERYDAY.

I would spend More of my time with the people I love.

I will have More
by spending less time each day on unworthy pursuits.

I will have MORE by doing what I am on the planet for...

I will have MORE in less time
by working 4 hours a week on something truly meaningful.


PLEASE READ THE BOOK:

THE 4 HOUR WORK WEEK
by Timothy Ferriss

WHY ARE PEOPLE AFRAID TO SAY THEY WANT MORE?

MORE IS GOOD!

WHAT WILL YOU DO WITH YOUR MORE ? ? ? ? ?

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN!
by reading that book,
and by Wanting and Creating MORE in your life.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent QUITTING

When is QUITTING a good thing???

How about quitting
when you are heading
back to the buffet
"to get yourself another plate of crazy"?

Perhaps when we are doing
the same thing
for the GAZILLIONTH time...
even if it isn't a bad thing,
just THE SAME THING
...again...
it MAY be time to stop
and find a new thing.

Reaching(mindlessly)
for that can of Diet Coke?
for that debit card?
for that same tired CD?
for another lite beer?
Have that SAME "burgerlunch" yesterday, and the day before,and the day before?

We all do it.

We get comfortable
with the sameness.

We may even always hang out with the same people,
to the exclusion of meeting
some of the other
zillion and a half other
fascinating and amazing
humans on the planet.

Same Job?
Change how you act there.

Same Chores?
Choose to do them at a different time. Maybe 2a.m.

Same Music?
Change the station.
Borrow CD's from the Local Library.

Same Four Walls? PAINT ONE TURQUOISE OR RED OR PINK.

Same food?
TRY DRAGON PALACE Chinese
in Tinley Park
for a whole week.
(and eat it with chopsticks!)

Shake it up baby!

LET'S ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN
by Doing SOME-THINGS Different!

And PLEASE
Let me know what YOU did!

Love and Peace of mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
JOY

Bordering On Magnificent PERCEPTION

5 people can look at the same thing and each see it differently.
They could all look at the same situation
and see different posibilities in it
or different outcomes to it
based on their own experiences or feelings.

You have all heard someone speak of
"seeing the glass as half full or half empty",
usually meant to seperate the "positive" people from the "negative" ones.

I really don't like things that seperate humans so much from each other...
I LOVE the idea that we all could
put aside our own fears and need to win or be "right"
and just really Listen to each others HEARTS...
and HEAR their opinions,
or beliefs,
or what they are feeling...
and not be afraid of it or feel the need to fix it...
but just to be open to understanding and valuing
the ideas that are a part of who they are.

I can jump in before I have fully heard what someone is saying
and totally miss the point
or the heart of what they needed to share.

I am sorry for the times I have done that
to any of you that I know well.
I used to do it more often because as a kid
I always felt the need to get in a good defence
before i got a beating.

When People feel misunderstood or picked on for a long time
they tend to do this.
I believe that LOVE and UNDERSTANDING
can help us all
to REALLY LISTEN, AND also REALLY BE HEARD.

We need both,
We ALL NEED to LET OUR SPIRIT HAVE A VOICE
and we can all give each other the gift
of being valued and REALLY HEARD.

LET'S ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN THIS WEEK
BY SPEAKING OUT WHAT WE FEEL AND THINK,
AND REALLY GETTING MORE COMFORTABLE
WITH LISTENING TO THE HEART AND VOICE OF THOSE AROUND US...
(EVEN OLDER PEOPLE AND KIDS)

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
JOY

Bordering On Magnificent INSPIRATION

Sasquatch music festival 2009 - Guy starts dance party

What did you think of this guy???
Just ONE Person...doing his thing...
and HUNDREDS of people join in!

WHAT COULD YOU or I START or JOIN???
And what could happen if we did our own thing,
that we are here to do,
out loud,
in public
just because it's what we are here for...
and it gave others FREEDOM...
To join in our thing...
or start something NEW on their own.

It could be something seemingly silly to others,
or it could be something seriously needed for others...
either way,
All it takes is ONE to start to:
ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
JOY

Bordering On Magnificent S E X

Now that everyone is curious...
What sex are you? Male or Female?

Yesterdays post could give the impression that this is a "GIRL" BLOG.

I generally do not post about "girl-stuff" exclusively
and would like you ALL
to check out previous postings that began in June 2010.

Anything I post will be beneficial for both Men and Women

Previous posts had to do with customer service,
and Southwest Airlines, and various other experiences.
The "GOOSE BUMPS" post, and others are equally diverse in
their ability to get us to
"ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN!"


Please read from the Previous posts today.
Let me know what you liked!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent MAMMOGRAMS

Brief but NOT a "Tweet"

Running
doing
being
stopping
to take care of business.

I DECIDED
not to go to a business networking meeting
this morning at 8 A.M. in Alsip.

I Love "DECIDING"

I used to live my life by default.
I would let things happen by not making decisions or not taking action
and then live (small "l" as compared to "Live" with a capital.)
with the outcome.

I have 3 other Networking events which I will be attending this week.
They are all ones I Planned to attend.
They are reasonably local and potentially productive.

I already had a Mammogram scheduled at 2:20 PM
and a Dental cleaning and exam scheduled at 3:20 PM
The 8AM meeting was across town,
and I REALLY want to take a shower today.

Today, "I am NOT going to get another plate of crazy from the buffet!"

I will choose what is best,
And I will do what is humanly possible,
And I will end my day with a sense of accomplishment
rather than a feeling of exhaustion.

Because I was mindful of making decisions and choices yesterday,
I was able to get appointments for long overdue visits
to my dentist Dr.Jordan Kaplan and for a mammogram.
Yes they are back to back...
but that is what I call a "Me-sandwich"
Two hours of time spent exclusively on my body.

Sometimes (but not often enough) it could be
a pedicure and a hair cut.
Or a massage and getting contact lenses fitted.

If we will cram and run and do for others
and even for some relatively unimportant things in life...
why put our own body and sometimes even our own mental and emotional health
on the back burner?

I will enjoy my day today,
I will accomplish "what needs to be done today"
I will choose the best and Leave the rest
for tomorrow.

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN . . .

SING a song TO YOURSELF...RIGHT NOW...A HAPPY LITTLE LOVE SONG like Brown Eyed Girl
like I did last night...or maybe PRETTY WOMAN? or You look wonderful tonight...or Sugar Sugar by the Archies or Im a Believer by the Monkeys or any song that celebrates you!
SING IT TO YOURSELF LOUDLY or softly...BUT MEAN IT! Change a few words around if necessary, so you are singing it to yourself... REALLY. . . you may start believeing and knowing just how beautiful and awesome you really are!

Love the fountain and seating at the J.Jill store in Orland Square Mall.
(JUDY: You don't have to drive all the way from Georgia, there may be one by you. LOL)

If you Are already in the area, ...Stop by J.Jill
and drop a penny or even a quarter in the fountain,
and breathe an intention for
Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent GOOSEBUMPS

Let's ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN by getting goose bumps today.

Please check out these 3 videos below
Watch and listen to them all of the way through,
and TELL ME if you actually feel the goosebumps rising on your skin.
Or Not.
You don't have to like the type of music
but I DO believe you will FEEL something change in your PHYSICAL body.

REMEMBER... We are Taking our time to really LIVE LIFE.

PLEASE. . . Watch and Listen to each Song Completely
and then move on to read the way to
Rock The Space You're In!

(Britain's Got Talent ) Paul Potts' 1st Audition

Sister Act 2 (Finale) - Joyful Joyful With Lyrics

Sister Act 2 - Oh Happy Day

Bordering On Magnificent GOOSEBUMPS

ARE YOU ALIVE? ? ? ? ?

What Really Goes deep down under your skin ...
to the core of your soul...
and comes back out...
and leaves you covered with GOOSEBUMPS???

Anticipation, Awe, Wonder, Seeing Amazing transformations, Hope.
All of these inspire Goosebumps for me.

The previous 3 videos do it for me. ( go back and watch them, Please)

From reading my previous posts,
you may conclude that I am just all about the feelings and action and grins and giggles, and outward expressions in life.

I LOVE that stuff for sure...
but I also have spent a bit of my time
in areas of my life
feeling dead.

I spent some of my time on this beautiful planet,
just exsisting
and not really LIVING.

SO...Yeah,>>>At times I can be
a real "cheerleader for LIVING".

And it could seem that I am encouraging us all to be more...
"out there"...
...all of the time...like a circus...

But in spite of my "wild and crazy girl" thing...
I Love quietness, and stillness,
and even being alone sometimes.

I LOVE EATING ALONE sometimes.
I love sleeping alone SOMETIMES
I LOVE watching a movie alone sometimes
I LOVE dancing alone SOMETIMES
I LOVE DRIVING IN THE CAR AT NIGHT ALONE SOMETIMES.
I LOVE NOT To Talk Sometimes.

Quietness
Stillness
Listening
Anonymity
Invisibility
are all great qualities in a balanced life.

Laughter is good medicine...
but so are Goosebumps...
and the FEELING of JOY

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent L. O. L.

L.O.L. Laughing Out Loud

I have Laughed so much in the past 48 hours,
and I plan to laugh even more today.
YEP! I PLAN to LAUGH...
Pretty weird, eh???

Laughter IS the best medicine!!
Laughter IS good for the soul!!
Laughter IS great exercise!!
Laughter IS contageous!!
Laughter is the "music" of Kids!! ( I made that one up just now)


If you watch a comedy or a cartoon or other t.v. show with a humorous theme,
You will barely even notice the "Laugh-track" that you are hearing through out the show.

Next time you are watching a "FUNNY" show...
STOP listening to the show...
and tune yourself into the "laugh-track" in the background!

You will be surprised how much more fun you may have
listening to and focusing on
the sounds of a good belly laugh,
a great giggle,
or a crazy cackle.

Sometimes just imagining doing something TOTALLY absurd or crazy or unacceptable
can send us into fits of giggling.

Did you ever just feel like cracking up while someone was
telling you a seriously tragic story??

Did you ever have a random silly thought while at a wake or a funeral
and struggle to stay composed and somber?
How about at work???
Ever find the pretentiousness a bit suffocating?
Let go of a Laugh! Laugh Out Loud!
Even Surgeons tell jokes during surgery,
and what most of us do is NOT "rocket science".

Let's Rock The Space We're In with LAUGHTER!!!

For the next 5 hours (or so)
LET'S NOTICE or DO Funny, Absurd, or Amusing things
And let the Laughing begin.

Oh Yeah... Let me know what things tickled your fancy today!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent MOTIVATION

I Am Still Becoming.


I know what my biggest obstacle in life is
and I am working daily on growing in spite of it.

How???

Because I have identified it.
And now I am FREE to FOCUS
Not on my obstacle,
but on my FUTURE.

The things I choose to DO with my life,
and the things I choose to talk about are
(for the most part)
the plans and activities and thoughts that move me forward.

Sometimes we are moving down the road,
ready for the next adventure ahead,
with a beautiful sky above us,
gorgeous trees or mountains or fields or even the Ocean alongside of us,
a nice breeze, or light refreshing shower or an awe inspiring thunder storm
with an incredible lightning show (whatever floats your boat)
. . . . . .
then all of a sudden we will look over our shoulder
and notice some "RoadKill" laying in the road.

Next we'll start remembering that road kill,
and begin to think about it,
and comment on it to others,
and describe it and even try to identify what it may have been
before it got run over.


Let's ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN !
Right Here and Now!

Let's Look at the road ahead
as an adventure we are ready to move toward.

The "road kill" happened and is not worth focusing on
and going back to look at it over and over
and take a big deep sniff of it's decaying carcass...
That's the same as going back to get another plate of crazy from the buffet!



MOTIVATION should be in the form of
anticipation,
acknowleging needed resources,
aquiring new information and skills,
attempting new things
and accomplishing what we humanly can.
(All of those start with the letter "A". Get it?)

If I ran the zoo...
The grade "A" or even "A+" would be given
for this kind of healthy effort,
and healthy focus.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent TWITTER

NO. . . This is NOT a TWEET!!!!!!!!!



READ this morning's earlier post first!



Just taking a moment to share that whether it is
Hanging out re-connecting for 4 hours
as Valarie and I just did
(sitting in a booth at McDonalds)

Or just a quick cup of coffee
with an old friend
somewhere
between errands...

Re-connecting with the right people in your life
is a very good thing.

That said...
There are people who are good for us, and us for them,
and there are the rest of the people on the planet.


Who do YOU spend most of YOUR life (and time) with??????

It is your life after all,
and we live with our choices.
Even if the people you are around the most are family,
is that the best and healthiest choice for you, and for them?

Being around people who see the glass as half full,
even in the midst of their personal struggles,
is life giving.

This is true of good old friends,
and also of how to choose new people to share space with.

It applies to those in their 80's 50's 30's or teens and younger...
Spend some time with others who are where you want to be at in life.

Let's choose to BE someone who lifts others up by celebrating
their successes and their silliness with them.

Let's share space now and then with others
who can re-live and appreciate and value
the moments and milestones in life.
This can be expanding and challenging.
It helps us to remember what we have already accomplished
and gives a vision for all we are still capable of.

Let's spend time occasionally with someone
who can laugh till we both pee our pants (just a little)
This is a great way to re-charge
and see past the brick wall in front of us.

These ideas go back to occasionally eating with chopsticks
and other previous posts about
skipping on out of our "ruts" and comfort zones.

Let's get together this week with someone who knows the real us.
Not the ones who have the expectations
of how we always are and what we should act like.

Sometimes the person we become
bit by bit and year by year
is just a shadow of who we are created to be.

Let's ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN by:
Spending some time with others who help us remember what it means to
"jump out of a perfectly good airplane"

and maybe then
we will have a bit more LIFE in us to share
with those we share space with
at work, at school, at home, on the road,
or even in a line at the store.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent VACATION TIME

That looked like vacation time up in the heading, didn't it?

But it's really: vacation...TIME.

I have approximately 197 hours
from this morning
through 3PM on Monday August 2nd
when I return to the "day job".

I would still have all of these hours even if I was not on vacation time,
but the urgency and opportunity to USE THEM WELL has even more potential this week.

Will I use them well??? or Squander them to sleep and mindless activities???

I know what I need and want to accomplish this week.
I know that having a plan and working the plan is the only way
to succeed at accomplishing my goals.

I already have made a most excellent choice in spending the next few hours...
I called a friend Valarie that I have not spent time with for quite a while,
and we are going to meet in a half an hour to re-connect.

There will be laughter!
There will likely be tears too at some point.
There may also be some kind of unplanned adventure...

Being with Valarie is a great way to start a great week of accomplishing things.
She has worked as hard and as consistently
at building a good life in spite of obstacles
as anyone I know.

Along with all of her other gifts to the planet...
She has raised a wonderful human being (her daughter Ashley)
with strength, love, grace and HUMOR!

I could hang out at home this morning,
I could go to church,
I could meet with a business consulting partner,
I could go to the library in search of motivation...

All Good Things....

But instead Valarie and I are going to
ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN
this morning, together again, re-grouping,
and laughing till we pee our pants (just a little)

Some of you
(probably MOST of you)
are much better at connecting with friends than I am.

SO. . . .
If you are like me...
call someone today
that you have let slip through the cracks of your busy life,
and just say "HEY!!!!"

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent PURPOSE

I was on my hands and knees at the "Day Job" today.

I was squatting down and bending over repeatedly there.

I put a few miles on my feet today there.

I reached over and under racks and racks of clothes
to retrieve pieces that were tossed here and there.

I lifted arm-fulls of "inside-out" clothing
and empty hangers
off of the floor
and off of the chairs in the fitting rooms today.


AND. . . .
I LOVED IT !

No. Not really.

I have had friends over the years who LOVE to clean and organize.

I understand their THRILL at seeing their skills
make a difference
in their immediate environment.

To nurture others
by beautifying their space
by creating cleanliness and order
is a blessing which some people
are naturally gifted at giving.

B U T. . .

Who is it
that has the skill set or "giftedness"
for constantly picking up things
that others have left behind
or thrown on the floor?

I want to meet these people.

I mean,
even the mom of a 2 year old
is in the process of trying to teach the child
that...there is a day coming where they will stop pooping in their pants
and that mommy (and or daddy) at that point
will no longer be needing to change their poopie diapers.

They are learning that it is good
to be a big boy or big girl
and are becoming aware
that a toilet is a better place to dump stuff
instead of the space that they carry around with them.
They are becoming aware that others around them
have feelings and noses too.

I did not enjoy the part of the "Day-Job" today
where I felt frustrated
that everything my co-workers and I did
was being trashed
every moment of the entire day.

I did not enjoy
seeing clothing that someone else might have been saving and hoping for
and just waiting and wanting to have and appreciate,
being discarded and trashed by others.

That part of my day to day life is extreemly painful and confusing.

How do we get to the point of being so busy that we lose our humanity?

Wouldn't it be far better for us all to go naked?

Wouldn't we all be on more even footing?
For Two Days....
LET'S ALL
ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN
by taking our time
and mindfully deciding what we need,
and Looking for that item.

For Two Days....
Let's all set aside something UNIMPORTANT that we do
to make the time
to CREATE a calm and mindful shopping experience
for the things that we may truly need.

Maybe a plain black dress or skirt.
ONE good pair of jeans.
A white shirt.
One tighter fitting top. Preferably a v-neck or a wrap top,
and a really cute fitting t-shirt.

Lastly...ONE really great necklace and One pair of earrings.

NOTICE THAT "REALLY GREAT" does NOT mean EXPENSIVE.

It means YOU LIKE IT
and FEEL GREAT PUTTING IT ON
and LIVING IN IT.

BY THE WAY. . .

The part of the day I LOVED...
was the PEOPLE!!!!!

Those of you who shared a moment of your day
to connect with us and each other
as HUMAN BEINGS.

YOU brought a little bit of "Mayberry"
or "Mr. Rogers Neighborhood" to the "Day-Job" today.

I LOVE TO HELP YOU AND MAKE YOUR DAY

YOU ARE WHY I GET UP AND GO TO THE "DAY_JOB"
Believe me...It's NOT the money.
It IS the time I get to spend sharing life with YOU!

I know what MY PURPOSE is
on this planet,
and in this life time journey.

What is YOUR PURPOSE????
Are you working at living it?
Slow down for 33 minutes, or so TODAY,
and 17 minutes (or so) TOMORROW...
and think about WHY you are here.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent Seeing Clearly

Just got back from Dr Mary Lou French my eye doctor.

Last year, I was having trouble adjusting to contact lenses,
and instead of Rocking the Space I was In...
I just gave up.

SO...
It has been a year of squinting,
and searching for the "cheater readers"
(which usually were on top of my head)...
and guessing at what I was seeing or reading.
This even involved almost getting into the wrong car
with the wrong person on multiple occasions. LOL

They say that the Eyes are the window to the soul,
They are obviously important, even essential to life
So why did I put such an important part of MY life on the back burner???

I think it was because I could compensate for the loss in vision.
I settled for what I could see,
instead of having the awesome view I am experiencing today.

No more settling for me!
Settling (in many or any area)costs us time, effort, and quality of life.

Let's Rock The Space We're In TODAY
by taking care of one difficult,
or time consuming
or unpleasant task on our to-do list.>
It may be big or small,
but if we can clear it off the table today...
we will have room for a feast tomorrow.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering on Magnificent SHOWERING

Maybe at some point,
you've been too busy to shower.

I mean, really,...
life can get SO busy
or you can become too exhausted to drag your body
into the tub for that all important
and much needed bath.

Maybe you've been in the hospital,
or had a surgery or accident that keeps you laid up in bed for a bit.

We could even get too depressed to care what we smell like...
it happens...

A Bath will do the job.
It may be relaxing for some.
But I Love showers.
The temperature is a constant,
(No going from hot to lukewarm)
No lying in bath water filled with sweat,dirt,and dead skin cells.

Nope, with a shower all the "stuff" of the day
just swishes right down the drain.

Wouldn't it be great if ALL of the "Stuff" of life
could be washed right down the drain?
In spite of my fondness for sweating
(see my previous post)
Feeling Clean is a good feeling.

What if we ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN
in the bathroom??????

Next chance you get,
TAKE A SHOWER!
It doesn't need to be a long one
It can be hot or cold if you prefer.
But as we shower,
Let's think of the "STUFF" in our own life we would like to feel rid of...
Worries, regrets,choices, relationships,
ways that we've supposedly not measured up,
and any other stuff that we don't need to carry around on our skin any more.

Let it all just wash down the drain
till you can actually feel refreshed,
and alive again,
and maybe even...Tingly!!!

And while you shower...
belt out your favorite song.
AND...let me know what it was.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

BORDERING ON MAGNIFICENT Love

Haven't had the time to post anything of interest the past week...

What does Love look like to you???

Is there a thing that feels like Love to you?

Is it someone being a certain way?
Doing certain things?
Saying certain things?

Is it how they make you feel?
Or that they need you?

What does being loved make you, feel, do, create,..?
How does being loved cause you and your world to expand and grow?

What actions cause you to feel loved?

DO WE NEED SOMEONE ELSE TO LOVE US
OR DO LOVING THINGS FOR US
OR CAN WE BEGIN
BY LOVING OURSELVES.
FIRST.
AND DOING LOVING THINGS
FOR OURSELVES.
FIRST.

Maybe out of the overflow of self-love
and self appreciation,
we will be better able
to love others well.

Rock the space you're in...
Make a list of the things you like, want to have, wish for,
feel good about, enjoy doing,and places you want to go,
and things you want to accomplish in life...
THEN PUT THEM AND YOURSELF FIRST.

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN BY LOVING YOU!
And PLEASE...
Let me know what that meant to you!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

New blog post: Bordering On Magnificent Sweat http://ping.fm/Ub1nE

Bordering On Magnificent SWEAT

EEEEEWWWWWEEEEUUUUUUUU!!!!!!

That is the most common reaction I've heard to the word sweat,
or in conversations about sweat.

"I feel so YUCKY and SWEATY! "
"ICK!...You're sweaty!"

But last night at a friends house for a cook out and fire works,
I met a kindred spirit who'd rather sweat than freeze.

She loves summer and enjoys the feeling
of being out and about
without air conditioning if necessary,
sweating and LIVING LIFE!

We all wear deodorant or antiperspirant
I mean, this is 2010...
So why look at sweat as bad?
The dead don't sweat!
Sweat means that we are alive and kickin'.

I am NOT making light of any ones
medically debilitating conditions
where they sweat profusely
even in air conditioning, etc.
or where they never get relief...

what I AM saying is that last night
I danced and sweat till I could have dropped,
and felt SO ALIVE!!!!!!!!
And then I poured a cold bottle of water over my hair
and down the back of my neck,
O.M.G. ( as some younger and more "Cali" than I say )
How Refreshing!!!! To sweat, and then cool off!
Extremes CAN be good for the Body
as well as the mind and the spirit.

I mean...

Doesn't sweat add an attractive look
running down a Harley Bikers face and neck?
Don't the Doctor shows on T.V. all show sweat
running off the surgeons forehead as he saved a life?

and...

Who doesn't love the smell of a hard working man,
or a great lover, or a championship winning hockey team?
Did any of those dudes have to go shower before they celebrated?

If you're over 30 and having sweats
they may come with that season of life...

If you're in a mall or at a party or in the grocery store,
at a restaurant, in the car, or even at the dentist,
and you feel a flash coming on,
PLEASE don't say
"It's SO warm in here"

NO!

I want you to Lift your head up proudly,
Raise your hand
and do a flourishing "snap" movement in the air,
and Loudly proclaim to your self and anyone within hearing range...

... "I AM SO DAMMMM HOT !!! "

You will probably receive looks of admiration from others
who are trying desperately to stay or at least look cool.
and a few in the amen chorus will probably yell out
that you indeed ARE hot!

Either way...

Let's ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN this summer
by ENJOYING THE SWEAT we've earned
from working hard,
playing hard
loving hard,
and best of all
from BEING ALIVE!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering on Magnificent TODAY

There's a lot I needed
and wanted to get done
TODAY,
but then life happens
and you go with the flow...
or not,
and you either move on
in the adventure that is TODAY,
or you get yourself a whole plate of crazy from the buffet.

I LOVE when babies and or small kids
yell or cry or laugh and giggle,
or talk loudly in public.
People get all un-done,
at the inapropriatness of such moments,
then they usually try to shush the child,
who is really just saying how they really feel.

SOOO....
Let's all ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN!
Let's all be healthy like kids.
For the next 7 days,
let's all laugh, cry, giggle, yell,
talk loudly, tell jokes,
say deep important things, make silly faces,
and be real and honest,
like when we were 3 years old.

...and lets share a box of milk duds when we're done.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent FEARLESS

One of my decisions many years ago was to become fearless.
Is that an achievable goal?
In the current climate we live in,
where "stuff hits the fan" on an hourly daily or weekly basis,
how do we become fearless?

Is it even O.K. to be fearless?
I mean,isn't it being careless,
or in denial, or irresponsible of me
to not be constantly aware of all the impending doom
which COULD happen to me every second of the day?

If I don't strap all of that danger and drama and
despair on my shoulders every morning,
how am I going to carry it
from place to place
in the space I'm in each day???

Picture THIS:
Head pounding,
shoulders and upper body
are schlumped forward
from the weight of worry.

Now remember. . .
I do NOT do math,
BUT,
I am quite positive that somewhere
there is a formula or ratio of Kilograms to Worry
that produces a bent over posture.

With the schlumping forward
the angle of the face and eyes
is now lowered to a view of the ground.

I like to call this:
The Land of Butts and Knees.

It is basically the same things small children
have to look at for the hours they are riding in a stroller.

Apart from osteoporosis
where someone has no choice in the matter,

I believe you can see that
this is not the best position
for letting your smile
and stunning personality
shine through.

Even on my difficult days,
I like to catch someones eye and
plant a huge smile
and a snappy comment on them.

REMEMBER Billy Crystal's:

" YOU LOOK MAHVELLOUS ! ! ! ! !
????????????????????????????????????????


TRY IT!
Smile boldly and enthusiastically proclaim to someone today

"I LOVE that turquois tie (or dress or purse) on you!
YOU LOOK MAHVELLOUS!!!!!

or What a great hair cut!
YOU LOOK MAHVELLOUS!!!

or simply and possible best of all
What a beautiful smile you have!
YOU LOOK MAHVELLOUS!!!!!!"

When we lift our face and eyes
to look up to notice others,
our shoulders and body
and just maybe our Spirit
may follow and start looking up as well.

Yep, I am fearless!


I still double check the door locks
and curling iron and stove when I leave the house-
But I am fearless!

I still call my bank hot-line
many times throughout the day
to be sure I haven't bounced something-
But I am fearless!

I still keep looking through the bills
Multiple times...
But I am Fearless.

Death happens!
(to everyone)
(can't fix that)

Job Loss is imminent for most.
(but if I am not seen as valuable or essential
this is also not fixable at this point.)

Poverty is rampant!
( But a poverty of hope can be as debilitating as financial poverty)

I will not play POLLYANNA'S "glad game" (old Disney movie reference)
with the pain of others...
But neither will I just curl up,
and accept defeat.

I Am Fearless, because each and every day for years.....
I have feared less and less and less!

Stress and worry INTENSIFY pain.
They do not solve anything.
They weigh us down.

LET'S ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN
BY FEARING LESS!

Today, Let's confidently lift our head up
and get our view off the ground
so we can GREET the answers, solutions,
and opportunities,which are presenting themselves,
(possibly in the face of the next person you greet
with a Hearty
"YOU LOOK MAHVELLOUS!!!")

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent PAIN

Where can we put the sadness?

Yes, I can see the glass as half full.

Yes, I can look on the bright side.

Yes, I can take the lemons in life and make lemonade.

But some things in life are real hard.
Or painful, overwhelming, scary,
Or they just plain stink.


You've heard me say it plenty of times...

Bordering on Magnificent.
Some days it's a feeling,
Some days it's a choice,
Some days it's a little of both.


Choosing to find a way to not cave in permanently,
IS Bordering on Magnificent!

Choosing to see through our fears or tears
beyond the next difficult moment,
IS Bordering on Magnificent!

Choosing to do another 24 hours, ( or even another hour )
IS Bordering on Magnificent!

Choosing our own way to nurture our hurting body, heart and mind,
IS Bordering on Magnificent!

Bordering on Magnificent is not denial or pretending,
IT IS NOT OFFERING CLICHES AND PAT ANSWERS.


It IS living "As If".

As If, in spite of real pain, we have a better moment coming.

As If the difficult thing you or I may be facing,
will not be fatal.

As If in spite of whatever circumstances we face,
we can take it one moment or one day at a time,
and continue to LIVE this moment,
knowing that some good and beautiful things,
are still around us.

Just like the incredible sunset and clouds after the storm tonight,
there is something beautiful waiting.
I learned tonight once again,
to Deal with what I know in the moment,
not what I could fear about the future.

My loved one says,
"Don't let it rent space in your head."

Let's Rock the Space We're In TODAY,
by doing what we can about what we know,
and then being open to accepting good news,
along with whatever challenges come our way.

Love and PEACE OF MIND,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent WANTING

I really DO want to get the things on my list done each day.

That is why I make a list.

To get things out of my head, on paper, and into action.

I wrote out a "Bucket List" years and years ago,
long before the movie or even the idea of such a thing
became popular.

One of the things that I put on the list was that I wanted to direct traffic.
Just once. Not as a job or a living. . . just as a one time opportunity.

Didn't know why or how it would happen, but then suddenly one night it did.

It was winter, night time and slightly snowing.
I was in a south-bound lane and there was a van stalled in the left turn lane.
I could see that no-one was realizing that the turn lane was blocked,
and so people were flying up on the lady and her kids in the van,
then jerking into the middle lane to go around her
while almost hitting other cars in the process.

I called 911 and pulled up a ways behind her
and began directing the traffic to allow the cars
which were stuck behind her to pull out,
and alerting the ones pulling forward to stop to avoid creating an accident.
This went on for about maybe 4 minutes or so till the police arrived.

Now I do not recommend getting out in traffic and doing this,
but at the moment I did it, it was the right thing to do for the safety of all concerned.

It did not even dawn on me till years later that it had been something on my list.

It is interesting how many of the things that I initially wrote down, as well as the things I have added to the list over time. . . HAVE actually happened.

I do believe that when we say things out loud and write our thoughts or intentions or wants, on paper, that they carry more weight and power than just letting them roll around in our heads.

I am getting bolder with my list.

I no longer write things like "I'd like to earn or have enough"...
I now write...I want and will have an abundance of everything I want and need to enjoy life and help others.

I think bigger now, because life has taught me that there is so much more possible than we sometimes dare to hope for.

Contentment is great, but there is a fine line between it and apathy.

Let's Rock the Space We're In by Living Out Loud !!!
For the next 48 hours write / or scribble if you must, any of the things you WANT
to have, to do, to be, to become, to see, to experience, and even people you want to meet, and places in the world you want to visit. Randomly take time to acknowledge your wants big and small by saying them out loud and or writing them down.

Enjoy the outcomes,
and let me know down the road what you discover.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent KAREOKEE

Did you ever enjoy just watching someone else
who was doing what they were BORN to do?

It might be someone like Paul Potts who was on Britain's Got Talent.
You remember ( or take a moment NOW and YOUTube him)
the AMAZING STUNNING THRILLING moment when he opened his mouth and that incredible VOICE came out. ( No REALLY, Stop right here, like I am going to and GO TO YOU TUBE and watch and listen to the WHOLE clip.)
I'll be here when you get back... I Promise!

WOW !. . . And he was spending his 40 hours a week selling mobile phones.

Hi! I'm Paul... Welcome to Such and Such Mobile phone company...
would you like to get a brand new zippy spiffy phone
and sign up for our blah blah blah package??


But...THINK ABOUT THIS FOR A SECOND. . .


Is there ANY doubt in your mind that PAUL POTTS
SANG IN THE SHOWER????

No Doubt! HAD TO! It is what he was born to do!

BUT there is also something else Paul Potts was "Born to do."
Possibly an even bigger and greater thing...

I believe he was born to give us the moment
that you and I just witnessed again on YouTube.

Paul Potts was destined to have a moment
where he let us all see and remember again
that EVERYONE has greatness and a purpose inside of them.

Not everyone was meant to sing,
or to be famous for acting or being a world class chef
or to have a talk show, or cure cancer...

But if we are alive and kicking to ANY extent,
with a breath left in our body...
I believe we were born
to acknowledge, encourage,
value and give hope to others who are in,
or "pass through" The Space We're In!

THIS WEEK:
Rock The Space you are In,
doing and experimenting with
the things you feel passionate about,
and maybe having a Paul Potts moment of your own.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent No Regrets

Regrets are heavy things.


I've lifted and carried some heavy things in life,
around my house, on the job, on my mind and in my heart.

I've helped move a car, a piano, lifted people, boxes and clothing at work.
I've moved furniture,
(Amy and I used to move furniture on a rug
and LOUDLY sing the "magic carpet song"
from the Disney movie Aladdin
as we pulled the piece across the floor.)

I've carried the weight of too many bills and not enough income,
I've carried the heaviness of being misunderstood by those I loved.
I've carried the pain of others and the confidences of many,
I have carried 2 children in my body
and these 2 and many more in my heart.

But the HEAVIEST suckers
I have ever carried... were REGRETS!

Regrets are absolutely crippling!

Regrets are the slipperiest suckers to get a grip on.

They obstructed my view of all of the enjoyable things
in my present moments and in my path ahead.

AND They Would Never stay where I put them,
Nope,...just kept rolling around in my head
at random times,
like when I was trying to sleep,
or focus on something good,
or plan a better tomorrow.

I found out a long time ago that
The Best I can do...
is the best I Can do.
....Today.
At this moment.

Regrets TAKE Time.

They take up SOOOOOOOOO much of life.

I stopped having time for them years ago.

I KNOW that I am doing my best
each day and each moment.

I know what my strengths are
and the areas I want to grow stronger in.

When something dressed up as a regret approaches,
I tend to say,
"Dude... I know that I kinda sucked at that,
but I did the best I knew how to do at the time."

I make choices now, not planning or willing to have regrets.
I always have the ability
to take the Great Thing from the experience
and move on into the new path.

This also leaves little tolerance for those
who want to judge me or others
by what they think they know about them,
or who rate others and their future by their past.

The good news is, this way,
I actually like the people I spend time with.

SOOOOOO......ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN! ! !

NAME your next regret "DUDE"
Have a very brief conversation with it,
and then move FORWARD.....JoyFULLY.
(and tell me about it.)

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent Another Day

Was Today a new day for you ? ? ?

How about Tomorrow ? ? ?

Every day is new but sometimes it can seem
like every day is just the "same old same old" .

Do you have many things that you do daily...
routine things???

What do you think you'd like to be doing
10 minutes from now?...
10 months from now?
10 years from now?

Do you want to be doing the same "daily" things years from now?

If not. . . read the book 10-10-10- by Suzy Welch.

Are there any priorities that we can add to our day today
that may increase the enjoyment of our lives tomorrow ? ? ?

One of mine is to be planning my day the night before.

Another priority I've added is to be
taking care of how I look and feel each day.

I've stopped living by default and want to encourage
everyone else to as well.

Rock the space you're in ! ! !

That's how we can possibly make the space we are in tomorrow
even better !

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

BORDERING ON MAGNIFICENT

Do I Do My Best ? ? ?

Do You Do Your Best ? ? ?

Do I Believe that people really are doing the best they can at a given moment

in spite of all the variables in their day?

I believe that Lauren and her team at Hot Rods
the Hamburger place we ate at today, did her very best.

The tables were set up for the 10 of us before we even arrived.

Our big group was welcomed warmly and treated with genuine kindness and patience
as we settled in and placed our orders, even
with the groups many questions about "pricing specials"
and some joking as well.
Coleslaw made fresh for us...
and frosty Mugs of great root beer...

but then the soup came after the hamburgers...O.M.G.

To order soup and a burger and and stuff
and then have the soup come later than the burger. . .
is this really a problem?

I didn't think so, and I still don't.
Maybe slightly out of the usual order it was wanted,
maybe ordering more food than some were hungry for,
but a problem?. . No.

Lauren, YOU WERE AWESOME !
Thank you for a great meal!

So for the next 48 hours...
Let's all ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN with:
APPRECIATION and UNDERSTANDING and PATIENCE
for those who are trying their best to serve and assist us.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

BORDERING ON MAGNIFICENT NICK

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Nick and I were on the same SOUTHWEST AIRLINES flight to San Diego .

We only talked for a moment when I asked him for the name of the HUGE book he was reading.

It is called The First Tycoon. I will probably need Cliff Notes to understand it...

but the fact that this guy Nick thought it was worth bringing on the flight to read

somehow made it intriguing to consider reading it myself.

Who did You see or talk to today that INTRIGUED You???

Did YOU encounter anyone who made you want to try something difficult,
or just beyond your personal skill set???

Just Think...
MAYBE YOU WERE THAT PERSON TO SOMEONE ELSE TODAY
......AND DIDN'T KNOW IT.

Rock The Space You're In ! ! !

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent BETTY WHITE

Sat down and watched a few minutes of the show My Wife and Kids.

BETTY WHITE is on it playing a house keeper for the family.

In the past month I heard she has been on S.N.L.and other shows as well as in some upcoming movies.

Now.. . . . .Did you ever see someone who you thought was dead, but then found out that they were still alive?????

BETTY WHITE is still alive and kickin' and
rocking the space where she is...and lately she is ALL OVER THE PLACE !

Do you feel like parts of your life are dead zones?

Do you find yourself feeling like you are at an ending. . . .
of something...or of anything?

MAYBE YOU ARE JUST AT A BEGINNING OF SOMETHING.

Betty White has not re-invented her self,
she is just putting who she has always been
out there and we are still loving her.!!!

TODAY I am
putting myself OUT THERE once again.
Who knows what new thing, or beginning
will happen today!

How about you???
Are you READY to RECEIVE a new start??

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN ! ! !

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent VACATION

Before reading...check out my launch video ! Joy

It's on youtube as: Bordering on Magnificent


Yep, I am back from San Diego and people are saying they almost didn't recognize me.
A real vacation will do that to you. But even when we stay home or have no time off from the day job, we can still have a mental change of pace and location in our head and in our perspective.

Shopping in San Diego included stops at 2 stores,
The GOODWILL resale store in Point Loma CA , and The CLOSET in the Westfield Mall in downtown San Diego CA .

My look and feel is Bordering On Magnificent... For almost no cash.
The HUGE thing was shopping with my 22 year old Daughter Amy.
Being with someone who is as edgy or freed up as you feel or want to feel...
can help move us out of what ever rut we may be in, mentally or wardrobe wise.

Saturday. . . Amy and I spent the afternoon with my mom and her friends and about 150 women who were all dressed in VICTORIAN clothing and accessories for a beautiful Victorian tea at the San Diego Woman's Club.
Again. . . a great experience of doing something totally "out of the box"

Monday... We went to see Sex and the City 2 with my mom (77) and 4 other Senior Friends including ONE lone male. The 6 of us made quite a harem for Jeff.

My mom and her life long best friend Shirley are both BORDERING ON MAGNIFICENT !
And they are like day and night .. . but they are so good together.

I believe that SAMENESS is highly overrated !
Oil and vinegar do not mix, but you can make one hell of a salad dressing with them
and a few spices.

Sometimes changing or as I prefer. . . ADDING new and different people,
personalities and activities to your world will be a gift to yourself
and to those in your space as well.

Although we are seemingly like day and night, my co-worker Liri at the day job and I had a Mini Moment a few months ago where she taught me the importance of Family, friendship, and spending time connecting with those who are far away.

Thanks to Liri being openly sad and astonished at the lack of connection I have with family,
I made time to spend this past week in San Diego with my mom and daughter, and am now working on a visit to my sister who I haven't seen in 17 years. Hugs Liri!
You Rocked the Space you're in, and enhanced our family's world!

Who do you think you already know? Who is someone you have seemingly little in common with? Try putting on a pair of huge or dangley earrings... or put on a skirt perhaps if you only wear pants...and Take a mini vacation this week.

PRETEND that you are a tourist, dress differently or add an accessory you wouldn't normally wear or feel comfortable with (Check out Goodwill)..possibly strike up a conversation with someone different than your self, even if you know, live or work with them every day, Let's suspend our usual judgements of others and see what we create, or receive.

Rock the Space You're In ! ! !

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose
to you and those you love,

Joy

BorderingOnMagnificent Sushi

SUSHI. . . .

O.K. . . . First 5 seconds.... what are you thinking?

Mentally running through a list of your favorite sushi spots, favorite rolls, or possibly revisiting really good times with loved ones or business associates over a great meal?

Possibly the first thoughts were...I've had that...and it wasn't my thing.

Or even...YUK!!!! RAW FISH!!! EEEEWWWWW!!!! NO WAY I"D EVER TRY THAT!

Three years ago I disliked fish and did not even eat tuna salad or filet o fish from "Micky D's"" golden arches. If you asked me, I'd say...I don't like fish. It tastes too...well.. you know. . . ..Fishy! But upon further thought I'd realize that I LOVED Shrimp and Crab legs. Sushi. . No. RAW fish ...No.

Did I mention that three years ago, I was also carrying 74 extra pounds on my body???

I was eating mindlessly and frequenting places multiple times a day where "Everybody knew my name" and made me feel at HOME. The only liquid I consumed for years was Diet Coke and in a way that "BRAND" WAS "ME".

It felt good to be holding a can of Diet Coke in my hand or pulling through the drive through to get my Super Size Diet Coke and a smile from my friends on Lagrange Road.

Dropping 74 pounds and keeping 60 of it off for over a year and a half didn't come by counting and can'ts and by carefulness... It came off because I started to CARE about MYSELF and CREATE ways of DELIGHTING myself, and TREATING myself instead of living in fearfulness and stress and JoyLessNess.

I KEPT EATING ALL OF THE CRAP AND DRINKING DIET COKE ! !

BUT ...... I ATE IT WITH CHOP STICKS ! ! !

Eating "regular" foods like french fries and chicken tenders with chopsticks was a big part of shaking up the usual patterns in my head and in my day. I would eat outside or in the center court in the mall and passers by would SMILE at me or strike up a conversation about how unusual and fun it was to see someone use chopsticks.

Something as simple as learning to juggle my food with a couple of sticks was not only making ME healthier ( I felt fuller faster...and actually TASTED my food.) but also creating a "mini moment" with random strangers! ! !

ALONG WITH USING CHOPSTICKS... I ADDED FOOD! Lots of it! I added good foods like eating at Schoops at the mall, every day. ( The Food AND the People who work there are BORDERING ON MAGNIFICENT !!!) I Added DARK chocolate every day, Edemame from Trader Joes! (healthy filling, and fun to eat!) ONLY ADDING FOOD...NO DEPRIVATION...NO RULES!

Using chopsticks, learning to play chess...Taking a belly dancing class for a couple weeks...eating outside...trying Sushi...or painting your fingernails black ( or dark teenager blue)for a couple weeks can RESET what you think you know about yourself, your possibilities and your purpose for being on the planet.

Can You Think For Yourself???? Can You Decide For Yourself?

Can You Make Changes that feel good rather than "Trying" to change, because you "Should"?

We are all better than we think we are,

but we only feel as magnificent as we give ourselves permission to be.

For The Next 2 Weeks...Add Or Try Something NEW or renew a forgotten pleasure.

Grab some extra chopsticks from Panda Or your local chinese takeout and carry them like you do a pen. USE THEM RANDOMLY.. at home and in public...DON'T WAIT to get good at it !!! It is NOT about what you look like or using them with skill...It Is About Learning and Enjoying and having Fun NOT BEING PERFECT!

Let me hear about your experiences!

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN !!!

Love and Peace of Mind,

Delight and Clarity of Purpose,

to you and those you love,

Joy

Bordering On Magnificent Creating Smiles

If you are one of my beloved customers at "the day job".. . . (Yes...I really DO care about and enjoy you!) . . . you already know of my intentions to open a coffee/martini bar on the open counter space next to my FAVORITE register by the mall doors.

I recently informed my store manager Dave who I respect and admire.. . . ..about my plans for this beverage venue. I told him that I've found it easier to ask for forgiveness rather than permission but wanted to give him a "heads up".He smiled. .. ( I like to make him smile )

I still have not given up on my year long quest to create

AND fill the the job of "Bed Mannequin " in our store.

I feel I would excel in this position and could enhance the atmosphere of the store by being the "Go-To Girl" for information about merchandise as well as the location of essentials such as the washrooms, elevators, concert ticket sales area and shopping carts,...all while making the sheets, covers and pillows look absolutely yummy and irresistible.

DO YOU FEEL STUCK ?

For the next three days. . .Take what you "do" and make it exceptional, quirky, or delightfully fun. . . for yourself and for those around you!

And tell me about it.

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN!

Love and Peace of Mind, Delight and Clarity of Purpose

to you and those you love,

Joy