Bordering On Magnificent S E X

Now that everyone is curious...
What sex are you? Male or Female?

Yesterdays post could give the impression that this is a "GIRL" BLOG.

I generally do not post about "girl-stuff" exclusively
and would like you ALL
to check out previous postings that began in June 2010.

Anything I post will be beneficial for both Men and Women

Previous posts had to do with customer service,
and Southwest Airlines, and various other experiences.
The "GOOSE BUMPS" post, and others are equally diverse in
their ability to get us to
"ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN!"


Please read from the Previous posts today.
Let me know what you liked!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent MAMMOGRAMS

Brief but NOT a "Tweet"

Running
doing
being
stopping
to take care of business.

I DECIDED
not to go to a business networking meeting
this morning at 8 A.M. in Alsip.

I Love "DECIDING"

I used to live my life by default.
I would let things happen by not making decisions or not taking action
and then live (small "l" as compared to "Live" with a capital.)
with the outcome.

I have 3 other Networking events which I will be attending this week.
They are all ones I Planned to attend.
They are reasonably local and potentially productive.

I already had a Mammogram scheduled at 2:20 PM
and a Dental cleaning and exam scheduled at 3:20 PM
The 8AM meeting was across town,
and I REALLY want to take a shower today.

Today, "I am NOT going to get another plate of crazy from the buffet!"

I will choose what is best,
And I will do what is humanly possible,
And I will end my day with a sense of accomplishment
rather than a feeling of exhaustion.

Because I was mindful of making decisions and choices yesterday,
I was able to get appointments for long overdue visits
to my dentist Dr.Jordan Kaplan and for a mammogram.
Yes they are back to back...
but that is what I call a "Me-sandwich"
Two hours of time spent exclusively on my body.

Sometimes (but not often enough) it could be
a pedicure and a hair cut.
Or a massage and getting contact lenses fitted.

If we will cram and run and do for others
and even for some relatively unimportant things in life...
why put our own body and sometimes even our own mental and emotional health
on the back burner?

I will enjoy my day today,
I will accomplish "what needs to be done today"
I will choose the best and Leave the rest
for tomorrow.

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN . . .

SING a song TO YOURSELF...RIGHT NOW...A HAPPY LITTLE LOVE SONG like Brown Eyed Girl
like I did last night...or maybe PRETTY WOMAN? or You look wonderful tonight...or Sugar Sugar by the Archies or Im a Believer by the Monkeys or any song that celebrates you!
SING IT TO YOURSELF LOUDLY or softly...BUT MEAN IT! Change a few words around if necessary, so you are singing it to yourself... REALLY. . . you may start believeing and knowing just how beautiful and awesome you really are!

Love the fountain and seating at the J.Jill store in Orland Square Mall.
(JUDY: You don't have to drive all the way from Georgia, there may be one by you. LOL)

If you Are already in the area, ...Stop by J.Jill
and drop a penny or even a quarter in the fountain,
and breathe an intention for
Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent GOOSEBUMPS

Let's ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN by getting goose bumps today.

Please check out these 3 videos below
Watch and listen to them all of the way through,
and TELL ME if you actually feel the goosebumps rising on your skin.
Or Not.
You don't have to like the type of music
but I DO believe you will FEEL something change in your PHYSICAL body.

REMEMBER... We are Taking our time to really LIVE LIFE.

PLEASE. . . Watch and Listen to each Song Completely
and then move on to read the way to
Rock The Space You're In!

(Britain's Got Talent ) Paul Potts' 1st Audition

Sister Act 2 (Finale) - Joyful Joyful With Lyrics

Sister Act 2 - Oh Happy Day

Bordering On Magnificent GOOSEBUMPS

ARE YOU ALIVE? ? ? ? ?

What Really Goes deep down under your skin ...
to the core of your soul...
and comes back out...
and leaves you covered with GOOSEBUMPS???

Anticipation, Awe, Wonder, Seeing Amazing transformations, Hope.
All of these inspire Goosebumps for me.

The previous 3 videos do it for me. ( go back and watch them, Please)

From reading my previous posts,
you may conclude that I am just all about the feelings and action and grins and giggles, and outward expressions in life.

I LOVE that stuff for sure...
but I also have spent a bit of my time
in areas of my life
feeling dead.

I spent some of my time on this beautiful planet,
just exsisting
and not really LIVING.

SO...Yeah,>>>At times I can be
a real "cheerleader for LIVING".

And it could seem that I am encouraging us all to be more...
"out there"...
...all of the time...like a circus...

But in spite of my "wild and crazy girl" thing...
I Love quietness, and stillness,
and even being alone sometimes.

I LOVE EATING ALONE sometimes.
I love sleeping alone SOMETIMES
I LOVE watching a movie alone sometimes
I LOVE dancing alone SOMETIMES
I LOVE DRIVING IN THE CAR AT NIGHT ALONE SOMETIMES.
I LOVE NOT To Talk Sometimes.

Quietness
Stillness
Listening
Anonymity
Invisibility
are all great qualities in a balanced life.

Laughter is good medicine...
but so are Goosebumps...
and the FEELING of JOY

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent L. O. L.

L.O.L. Laughing Out Loud

I have Laughed so much in the past 48 hours,
and I plan to laugh even more today.
YEP! I PLAN to LAUGH...
Pretty weird, eh???

Laughter IS the best medicine!!
Laughter IS good for the soul!!
Laughter IS great exercise!!
Laughter IS contageous!!
Laughter is the "music" of Kids!! ( I made that one up just now)


If you watch a comedy or a cartoon or other t.v. show with a humorous theme,
You will barely even notice the "Laugh-track" that you are hearing through out the show.

Next time you are watching a "FUNNY" show...
STOP listening to the show...
and tune yourself into the "laugh-track" in the background!

You will be surprised how much more fun you may have
listening to and focusing on
the sounds of a good belly laugh,
a great giggle,
or a crazy cackle.

Sometimes just imagining doing something TOTALLY absurd or crazy or unacceptable
can send us into fits of giggling.

Did you ever just feel like cracking up while someone was
telling you a seriously tragic story??

Did you ever have a random silly thought while at a wake or a funeral
and struggle to stay composed and somber?
How about at work???
Ever find the pretentiousness a bit suffocating?
Let go of a Laugh! Laugh Out Loud!
Even Surgeons tell jokes during surgery,
and what most of us do is NOT "rocket science".

Let's Rock The Space We're In with LAUGHTER!!!

For the next 5 hours (or so)
LET'S NOTICE or DO Funny, Absurd, or Amusing things
And let the Laughing begin.

Oh Yeah... Let me know what things tickled your fancy today!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent MOTIVATION

I Am Still Becoming.


I know what my biggest obstacle in life is
and I am working daily on growing in spite of it.

How???

Because I have identified it.
And now I am FREE to FOCUS
Not on my obstacle,
but on my FUTURE.

The things I choose to DO with my life,
and the things I choose to talk about are
(for the most part)
the plans and activities and thoughts that move me forward.

Sometimes we are moving down the road,
ready for the next adventure ahead,
with a beautiful sky above us,
gorgeous trees or mountains or fields or even the Ocean alongside of us,
a nice breeze, or light refreshing shower or an awe inspiring thunder storm
with an incredible lightning show (whatever floats your boat)
. . . . . .
then all of a sudden we will look over our shoulder
and notice some "RoadKill" laying in the road.

Next we'll start remembering that road kill,
and begin to think about it,
and comment on it to others,
and describe it and even try to identify what it may have been
before it got run over.


Let's ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN !
Right Here and Now!

Let's Look at the road ahead
as an adventure we are ready to move toward.

The "road kill" happened and is not worth focusing on
and going back to look at it over and over
and take a big deep sniff of it's decaying carcass...
That's the same as going back to get another plate of crazy from the buffet!



MOTIVATION should be in the form of
anticipation,
acknowleging needed resources,
aquiring new information and skills,
attempting new things
and accomplishing what we humanly can.
(All of those start with the letter "A". Get it?)

If I ran the zoo...
The grade "A" or even "A+" would be given
for this kind of healthy effort,
and healthy focus.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent TWITTER

NO. . . This is NOT a TWEET!!!!!!!!!



READ this morning's earlier post first!



Just taking a moment to share that whether it is
Hanging out re-connecting for 4 hours
as Valarie and I just did
(sitting in a booth at McDonalds)

Or just a quick cup of coffee
with an old friend
somewhere
between errands...

Re-connecting with the right people in your life
is a very good thing.

That said...
There are people who are good for us, and us for them,
and there are the rest of the people on the planet.


Who do YOU spend most of YOUR life (and time) with??????

It is your life after all,
and we live with our choices.
Even if the people you are around the most are family,
is that the best and healthiest choice for you, and for them?

Being around people who see the glass as half full,
even in the midst of their personal struggles,
is life giving.

This is true of good old friends,
and also of how to choose new people to share space with.

It applies to those in their 80's 50's 30's or teens and younger...
Spend some time with others who are where you want to be at in life.

Let's choose to BE someone who lifts others up by celebrating
their successes and their silliness with them.

Let's share space now and then with others
who can re-live and appreciate and value
the moments and milestones in life.
This can be expanding and challenging.
It helps us to remember what we have already accomplished
and gives a vision for all we are still capable of.

Let's spend time occasionally with someone
who can laugh till we both pee our pants (just a little)
This is a great way to re-charge
and see past the brick wall in front of us.

These ideas go back to occasionally eating with chopsticks
and other previous posts about
skipping on out of our "ruts" and comfort zones.

Let's get together this week with someone who knows the real us.
Not the ones who have the expectations
of how we always are and what we should act like.

Sometimes the person we become
bit by bit and year by year
is just a shadow of who we are created to be.

Let's ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN by:
Spending some time with others who help us remember what it means to
"jump out of a perfectly good airplane"

and maybe then
we will have a bit more LIFE in us to share
with those we share space with
at work, at school, at home, on the road,
or even in a line at the store.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent VACATION TIME

That looked like vacation time up in the heading, didn't it?

But it's really: vacation...TIME.

I have approximately 197 hours
from this morning
through 3PM on Monday August 2nd
when I return to the "day job".

I would still have all of these hours even if I was not on vacation time,
but the urgency and opportunity to USE THEM WELL has even more potential this week.

Will I use them well??? or Squander them to sleep and mindless activities???

I know what I need and want to accomplish this week.
I know that having a plan and working the plan is the only way
to succeed at accomplishing my goals.

I already have made a most excellent choice in spending the next few hours...
I called a friend Valarie that I have not spent time with for quite a while,
and we are going to meet in a half an hour to re-connect.

There will be laughter!
There will likely be tears too at some point.
There may also be some kind of unplanned adventure...

Being with Valarie is a great way to start a great week of accomplishing things.
She has worked as hard and as consistently
at building a good life in spite of obstacles
as anyone I know.

Along with all of her other gifts to the planet...
She has raised a wonderful human being (her daughter Ashley)
with strength, love, grace and HUMOR!

I could hang out at home this morning,
I could go to church,
I could meet with a business consulting partner,
I could go to the library in search of motivation...

All Good Things....

But instead Valarie and I are going to
ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN
this morning, together again, re-grouping,
and laughing till we pee our pants (just a little)

Some of you
(probably MOST of you)
are much better at connecting with friends than I am.

SO. . . .
If you are like me...
call someone today
that you have let slip through the cracks of your busy life,
and just say "HEY!!!!"

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent PURPOSE

I was on my hands and knees at the "Day Job" today.

I was squatting down and bending over repeatedly there.

I put a few miles on my feet today there.

I reached over and under racks and racks of clothes
to retrieve pieces that were tossed here and there.

I lifted arm-fulls of "inside-out" clothing
and empty hangers
off of the floor
and off of the chairs in the fitting rooms today.


AND. . . .
I LOVED IT !

No. Not really.

I have had friends over the years who LOVE to clean and organize.

I understand their THRILL at seeing their skills
make a difference
in their immediate environment.

To nurture others
by beautifying their space
by creating cleanliness and order
is a blessing which some people
are naturally gifted at giving.

B U T. . .

Who is it
that has the skill set or "giftedness"
for constantly picking up things
that others have left behind
or thrown on the floor?

I want to meet these people.

I mean,
even the mom of a 2 year old
is in the process of trying to teach the child
that...there is a day coming where they will stop pooping in their pants
and that mommy (and or daddy) at that point
will no longer be needing to change their poopie diapers.

They are learning that it is good
to be a big boy or big girl
and are becoming aware
that a toilet is a better place to dump stuff
instead of the space that they carry around with them.
They are becoming aware that others around them
have feelings and noses too.

I did not enjoy the part of the "Day-Job" today
where I felt frustrated
that everything my co-workers and I did
was being trashed
every moment of the entire day.

I did not enjoy
seeing clothing that someone else might have been saving and hoping for
and just waiting and wanting to have and appreciate,
being discarded and trashed by others.

That part of my day to day life is extreemly painful and confusing.

How do we get to the point of being so busy that we lose our humanity?

Wouldn't it be far better for us all to go naked?

Wouldn't we all be on more even footing?
For Two Days....
LET'S ALL
ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN
by taking our time
and mindfully deciding what we need,
and Looking for that item.

For Two Days....
Let's all set aside something UNIMPORTANT that we do
to make the time
to CREATE a calm and mindful shopping experience
for the things that we may truly need.

Maybe a plain black dress or skirt.
ONE good pair of jeans.
A white shirt.
One tighter fitting top. Preferably a v-neck or a wrap top,
and a really cute fitting t-shirt.

Lastly...ONE really great necklace and One pair of earrings.

NOTICE THAT "REALLY GREAT" does NOT mean EXPENSIVE.

It means YOU LIKE IT
and FEEL GREAT PUTTING IT ON
and LIVING IN IT.

BY THE WAY. . .

The part of the day I LOVED...
was the PEOPLE!!!!!

Those of you who shared a moment of your day
to connect with us and each other
as HUMAN BEINGS.

YOU brought a little bit of "Mayberry"
or "Mr. Rogers Neighborhood" to the "Day-Job" today.

I LOVE TO HELP YOU AND MAKE YOUR DAY

YOU ARE WHY I GET UP AND GO TO THE "DAY_JOB"
Believe me...It's NOT the money.
It IS the time I get to spend sharing life with YOU!

I know what MY PURPOSE is
on this planet,
and in this life time journey.

What is YOUR PURPOSE????
Are you working at living it?
Slow down for 33 minutes, or so TODAY,
and 17 minutes (or so) TOMORROW...
and think about WHY you are here.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent Seeing Clearly

Just got back from Dr Mary Lou French my eye doctor.

Last year, I was having trouble adjusting to contact lenses,
and instead of Rocking the Space I was In...
I just gave up.

SO...
It has been a year of squinting,
and searching for the "cheater readers"
(which usually were on top of my head)...
and guessing at what I was seeing or reading.
This even involved almost getting into the wrong car
with the wrong person on multiple occasions. LOL

They say that the Eyes are the window to the soul,
They are obviously important, even essential to life
So why did I put such an important part of MY life on the back burner???

I think it was because I could compensate for the loss in vision.
I settled for what I could see,
instead of having the awesome view I am experiencing today.

No more settling for me!
Settling (in many or any area)costs us time, effort, and quality of life.

Let's Rock The Space We're In TODAY
by taking care of one difficult,
or time consuming
or unpleasant task on our to-do list.>
It may be big or small,
but if we can clear it off the table today...
we will have room for a feast tomorrow.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering on Magnificent SHOWERING

Maybe at some point,
you've been too busy to shower.

I mean, really,...
life can get SO busy
or you can become too exhausted to drag your body
into the tub for that all important
and much needed bath.

Maybe you've been in the hospital,
or had a surgery or accident that keeps you laid up in bed for a bit.

We could even get too depressed to care what we smell like...
it happens...

A Bath will do the job.
It may be relaxing for some.
But I Love showers.
The temperature is a constant,
(No going from hot to lukewarm)
No lying in bath water filled with sweat,dirt,and dead skin cells.

Nope, with a shower all the "stuff" of the day
just swishes right down the drain.

Wouldn't it be great if ALL of the "Stuff" of life
could be washed right down the drain?
In spite of my fondness for sweating
(see my previous post)
Feeling Clean is a good feeling.

What if we ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN
in the bathroom??????

Next chance you get,
TAKE A SHOWER!
It doesn't need to be a long one
It can be hot or cold if you prefer.
But as we shower,
Let's think of the "STUFF" in our own life we would like to feel rid of...
Worries, regrets,choices, relationships,
ways that we've supposedly not measured up,
and any other stuff that we don't need to carry around on our skin any more.

Let it all just wash down the drain
till you can actually feel refreshed,
and alive again,
and maybe even...Tingly!!!

And while you shower...
belt out your favorite song.
AND...let me know what it was.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

BORDERING ON MAGNIFICENT Love

Haven't had the time to post anything of interest the past week...

What does Love look like to you???

Is there a thing that feels like Love to you?

Is it someone being a certain way?
Doing certain things?
Saying certain things?

Is it how they make you feel?
Or that they need you?

What does being loved make you, feel, do, create,..?
How does being loved cause you and your world to expand and grow?

What actions cause you to feel loved?

DO WE NEED SOMEONE ELSE TO LOVE US
OR DO LOVING THINGS FOR US
OR CAN WE BEGIN
BY LOVING OURSELVES.
FIRST.
AND DOING LOVING THINGS
FOR OURSELVES.
FIRST.

Maybe out of the overflow of self-love
and self appreciation,
we will be better able
to love others well.

Rock the space you're in...
Make a list of the things you like, want to have, wish for,
feel good about, enjoy doing,and places you want to go,
and things you want to accomplish in life...
THEN PUT THEM AND YOURSELF FIRST.

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN BY LOVING YOU!
And PLEASE...
Let me know what that meant to you!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

New blog post: Bordering On Magnificent Sweat http://ping.fm/Ub1nE

Bordering On Magnificent SWEAT

EEEEEWWWWWEEEEUUUUUUUU!!!!!!

That is the most common reaction I've heard to the word sweat,
or in conversations about sweat.

"I feel so YUCKY and SWEATY! "
"ICK!...You're sweaty!"

But last night at a friends house for a cook out and fire works,
I met a kindred spirit who'd rather sweat than freeze.

She loves summer and enjoys the feeling
of being out and about
without air conditioning if necessary,
sweating and LIVING LIFE!

We all wear deodorant or antiperspirant
I mean, this is 2010...
So why look at sweat as bad?
The dead don't sweat!
Sweat means that we are alive and kickin'.

I am NOT making light of any ones
medically debilitating conditions
where they sweat profusely
even in air conditioning, etc.
or where they never get relief...

what I AM saying is that last night
I danced and sweat till I could have dropped,
and felt SO ALIVE!!!!!!!!
And then I poured a cold bottle of water over my hair
and down the back of my neck,
O.M.G. ( as some younger and more "Cali" than I say )
How Refreshing!!!! To sweat, and then cool off!
Extremes CAN be good for the Body
as well as the mind and the spirit.

I mean...

Doesn't sweat add an attractive look
running down a Harley Bikers face and neck?
Don't the Doctor shows on T.V. all show sweat
running off the surgeons forehead as he saved a life?

and...

Who doesn't love the smell of a hard working man,
or a great lover, or a championship winning hockey team?
Did any of those dudes have to go shower before they celebrated?

If you're over 30 and having sweats
they may come with that season of life...

If you're in a mall or at a party or in the grocery store,
at a restaurant, in the car, or even at the dentist,
and you feel a flash coming on,
PLEASE don't say
"It's SO warm in here"

NO!

I want you to Lift your head up proudly,
Raise your hand
and do a flourishing "snap" movement in the air,
and Loudly proclaim to your self and anyone within hearing range...

... "I AM SO DAMMMM HOT !!! "

You will probably receive looks of admiration from others
who are trying desperately to stay or at least look cool.
and a few in the amen chorus will probably yell out
that you indeed ARE hot!

Either way...

Let's ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN this summer
by ENJOYING THE SWEAT we've earned
from working hard,
playing hard
loving hard,
and best of all
from BEING ALIVE!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering on Magnificent TODAY

There's a lot I needed
and wanted to get done
TODAY,
but then life happens
and you go with the flow...
or not,
and you either move on
in the adventure that is TODAY,
or you get yourself a whole plate of crazy from the buffet.

I LOVE when babies and or small kids
yell or cry or laugh and giggle,
or talk loudly in public.
People get all un-done,
at the inapropriatness of such moments,
then they usually try to shush the child,
who is really just saying how they really feel.

SOOO....
Let's all ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN!
Let's all be healthy like kids.
For the next 7 days,
let's all laugh, cry, giggle, yell,
talk loudly, tell jokes,
say deep important things, make silly faces,
and be real and honest,
like when we were 3 years old.

...and lets share a box of milk duds when we're done.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy