Bordering on magnificent. LIVING

I am LIVING... not merely existing.     I am doing what I can do, each day,  to make my life as amazing and meaningful and beautiful as possible.

Take my butt for example.

Somebody  playfully smacked it as they walked by today, kinda like football players do, and I realized that INSTEAD of a big, huge, jello pillow of dimpled flab under my jeans....
I  want, and am going after an A$$ so firm  you could bounce a quarter off of it!

Now THAT is a specific and defined goal.!


I am not making any list of "resoloutions" this week.

I am just taking MASSIVE and CONTINUOUS ACTION on the things that I  ALREADY KNOW need to be done.

Let's all agree to stop dreaming or wishing for the life we want....and instead, go " BALLS OUT" after it.
Right Now. TODAY.

Let me know how you are
Rocking The Space You're In,  AND what Massive Actions you are taking to make a Better Space for yourself to Rock in!

Love and delight
peace of mind and Clarity of Purpose, to you,
and those  you love,
JOY

Bordering On Magnificent. HOLIDAY

Today was a true Holiday for me. 
My life is lived in a hubbub of people and noise 
and requests and demands and unreasonable,.... 
even irrational  requirements and standards 

particularly at work.

 But today I had Peace AND Quiet.

 I have a GIFT for making amazing things out of crap circumstances,

 to the degree that a women actually waited in line a few moments longer because she felt I was "magical" and WANTED Me to be the one to take care of her so we could talk for a minute. 

I wasn't aware she had even given someone else "cuts" in line to achieve this moment with me.   I'm sharing this, not to brag,  but to say that I work with and am surrounded by brilliant and amazing people who rarely hear just how beautiful talented wise unique or valuable they are.   

So...often... their gifts and abilities and value

goes

unmentioned,

unnoticed,

unacknowleged,

and UnReceived by those who were intended to be blessed by their presence in this world.

Did you ever notice the look of disbelief or confusion on the face of someone you've complemented admired or appreciated?

it is because most people are never really SEEN as a GIFT.   
Let's try  ROCKING THE SPACE WE'RE IN THIS WEEK 
by  Speaking words to others about the qualities we SEE in them. (even strangers)
This will of course truly involve LOOKING at those around us and near us 
from the heart.

That's exactly how I spent the last part of my husband Rick's life, 
including the last breaths he took here almost  20 years ago.

Let me know how it goes for you.

Love and Peace of mind, 
Delight and Clarity of Purpose, 
to you and those you love,   
JOY

Bordering On Magnificent Stepping Up

Stepping Up.

I have learned alot about Stepping Up from my amazing daughter Amy.

She is TRULY
Rocking the space she's in by making adult decisions for the care of her grandma.

Amy has grown stronger both in handling the challenges in life  but also
in embracing the
" adventure of the unknowns. "
 Knowing Amy better this year has given me a reason to keep rocking the space Im in...and to keep expanding that space to even better places!!!!

Bordering On Magnificent SHOWING UP

Hey there, My Babies,

You were invited, and you came.
The Rest is Magic!

You remembered to look for 
BorderingOnMagnificent.com  for a reason.  

A Quote someone posted for me was...
         
             What You Put Up With, You End up With!

Let's not, (any of us ) "end up with"  settling for less than Respect, Love, Delight, Peace of Mind, and Clarity of Purpose.

Read On and be VALIDATED!

Love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent - VALIDATION

VALIDATION.

I'd love to think that we can get to a point 
where we really don't NEED someone else 
to let us know how awesome we are, 
but we are HUMAN BEINGS and NOT ROBOTS.

It feels good and encouraging to HEAR that what we do,  
(and More Importantly)...
 ...that Who We Are 
is appreciated, valued, desired, needed in this world.

WATCH THIS VIDEO !!!


This relates not just to the  human desire for 
encouragement / VALIDATION...
and the need people have to be acknowledged  noticed and appreciated,

but also to the DAMAGE DONE to Human Beings 
(PARTICULARLY IN THE WORK PLACE)
when their Work, and Loyalty, 
and their very essential personal 
abilities, gifts, and contributions
are  INTENTIONALLY 
NEGATED,  DEVALUED,  and DISMISSED 
in order to make them seem substandard
as employees, and ultimately as People. 

Challenges happen in everyone's life, but whatever circumstances you find yourself in today, let this video be a reminder that it's not over till it's over. 
We never know what door will open next in our life,
so let's be open to the moment.

This will touch you heart on some level, and I hope it is healing for EVERYONE who watches it.

YOU ARE AMAZING AND AWESOME AND SMART 
AND BEAUTIFUL AND SO MUCH MORE!!!

Lets Rock The Space We're In Today by
VALIDATING EVERYONE WE CAN 
in some small way. 

Love and Peace of Mind, 
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
JOY

Validation

HEADS UP

HEADS UP!!!!

I saw a line of cars waiting to make a right turn on to a major street in town this morning.

Didn't know what the back up was all about, but usually 3 cars could have turned in the short amount of time I was passing the intersection,
especially with NO oncoming traffic.

Cars were sitting...
Waiting...
and and as I pulled past I saw why.

A Young Black female about 19 years old was crossing the street,
heading to the curb where the cars awaited their chance to turn.

She was WALKING.

YES WALKING.
with her Head held high,
she was; step by deliberate step,
crossing the busy street at her own pace.

Now, understand...
She was not intentionally delaying traffic...
she was just aware that she had the
"right of Way"
and was not running carelessly to avoid
"pissing people off"
(see yesterdays post)

She may have been heading to the corner to get on the bus to take her to a job where she would be giving her time to people who did not appreciate the services she would render, as in retail, or restaurant, or a phone bank,
but I am QUITE CERTAIN that this young woman would carry herself
with great class and dignity wherever she went, or worked.

NO CRAWLING FOR HER!

Why do SO MANY businesses make no effort to
create an environment of respect for their employees?

Simple tools to make their job more effective and less frustrating
would give the powers that be,
the increased positive attitude they are so often seeking.

Think about the ways YOU may be "CRAWLING" for others
and decide to Stop...
TODAY.

Hold YOUR head high,
Know you are worthy of RESPECT,
and have some Self Respect no matter the task,
or circumstance you are in.

Make the moment your own!

Others will admire and learn from you.

(Oh...and people do NOT honk their horn at people like her)
They WAIT THEIR TURN.

Love and Clarity of purpose,
DELIGHT and Peace of mind,
to you and those you Love,
JOY

BorderingOnMagnificent "PISSED"

Why do people get
"PISSED"?

You can be driving a car,
taking a nap,
eating in a restaurant,
shopping in a store,
waiting in a line,
out on a date,
or sitting in a desk at school,
or your office...
YOU CAN EVEN GET PISSED ON THE PHONE!
Why???

USUALLY someone
"Pisses You Off"

THEY

Do something,
say something,
or
Don't do
or say something,...

OR

They give you that "look"...

or they "don't" look at you
and ignore you...

or????????...

What is the bottom line?

Why the bad feelings?

WHY did they cut you off

with their car,
or their words,
or from their life...

Why does a person get to the point
of being SOOOO angry,
that they are PISSED?

I BELIEVE IT IS HURT.

HURT that comes from feeling DISRESPECTED,
not valued,
unimportant,
and powerless.

Reality check...
That person you had to lay on the horn at
didn't Cut YOU off in their car,
they didn't even SEE you!

THEY were on the way to the hospital because they just got a call that their child was hit by a car.

That person who was not returning your phone calls...
just found out
SHE HAS CANCER.

The employee who is late
or the co-worker who is distracted at work may be trying to keep their electricity on or wondering how they are going to get home that night with no gas in the car...

Oh... and that dog
who's barking
woke you up from your nap...
(It's just a dog)
Not a sinister plot to ruin your day,
your health,
or your life.

What about Rocking the Space we're in for the next week by
GIVING OTHERS THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT.
by ASSUMING they were NOT out to hurt us...
but merely having a moment
where they were unaware
that they were unaware of us.

And let's graciously MOVE ON.

With Love and Clarity of Purpose,
Delight, and Peace Of Mind,
to you, and those you love,
JOY

THE VOICE

I watched the first show of THE VOICE for this season. Never saw the show before, and LOVED it! It was GOOD to see people who really had a shot at doing what they are on the planet for and using actual musical skills and talent, GIVEN THE CHANCE to be seen and critiqued by major successes in the industry.(As well as by the audience at large)

It was GOOD...
to see human beings
being appreciated,
and cheered on,
and encouraged to
ROCK THE SPACE THEY'RE IN,
and GO AFTER their dream!

What else I loved about this show is

The people represented
actually had Talent,
and were taking their best shot.

THEY WERE NOT BEING USED,
or HUMILIATING themselves
for ratings sake!

The "Celebrities" who were vying to be the coaches of the performers were humorously showing both their hearts for getting the people they chose
"to the top" as well as what friendly competition and being an entrepreneur is all about!

Check out THE VOICE !

A great education for those going after their dream and making it a reality!

Love and Peace of mind,
Delight and CLARITY OF PURPOSE,
to you and those you Love,

JOY

Bordering On Magnificent PURPOSE

A Girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do.

But for HOW LONG?

We do what we can
to grow and learn
and experience life lessons
from the circumstances we are in
thru out our life.

That is important.

Learning to do a variety of things,
and to persevere in a particular endeavor whether it is what we truly want to be doing or not.

Example:FRESHMAN ALGEBRA in High School

Other than the Extremely Smart Folks out there... most of the rest of us just kept at it...even through summer school... so we could graduate. But that was a class...with an end in sight...

How long is TOO long to not be using your real gifts and abilities, and making a real living at it?

How long should someone keep doing something that is neither meaningful, nor provides a REAL living?

I think:
Only as long as we are able to
"MAKE IT SOMETHING GOOD"

There is a variety of ways to do this.

Focusing on making others feel valued,
making their day with extreme humor,
Making Music, OR "Noises"
Doing the absurd or unexpected,
or "rallying the troops" to do something absurd or unexpected....ETC.

As long as we can keep the Passion alive in some way...we can stay.

For the next 8 Work hours
Let's Rock the Space We're In
by doing something absurd throughout the day that makes others smile.

And let me know how that worked for you!

Love and Clarity of purpose,
DELIGHT and Peace of Mind,
to you and those you love,
JOY

Bordering on Magnificent ASKING (and asking)

Have you ever wanted or needed something and had to ASK for it? Sure! We all have! We need to ask someone because they are not mind readers. "Mom... can I have a cookie?" "Dad, would you give me a ride to the mall?" "Would you marry me?" "Can I have a raise?" "Teacher,... can I go to the washroom?"...Yep... we need to ASK for what we want. "That's Life"!

But there is something to be said for Asking, and not needing to beg.

Maybe it is a small request...
or maybe an ongoing part of your relationship...
maybe it is for someone to pick up their share of the load,
or for something that was promised... Whatever it may be...lets try asking ONCE...with confidence and directness and compelling clarity the first time, and then let the chips fall where they may.

This may involve setting up some boundaries with people...( family, loved ones, co workers, etc.) but let's try having some dignity and self respect here.

After being direct, If someone is taking an inordinately long time to come through on a request...
you are either not a priority,
or they do not want to come through
or are unable to do so.

If your partner,friend or family member "just doesn't get" the things that either delight or bother you...

or makes YOU feel as though you are needy or unreasonable for making a request, it may be time to move on...
at least emotionally
so that YOU are not wasting days
or years on someone
who you are not understood or valued by.

If someone has the desire to be in your life in a meaningful way, they would be noticing and listening and caring about what matters to you...not needing you to ask and ask and ask again for the basics.

That brings us to ATTENTION
You are interesting, valuable, fun, and unique!

Hang out with those who admire and respect you're differences and your dreams.
Doing this one thing WILL give YOU the ENERGY to FOCUS on the things you really WANT and NEED and DESIRE.


It will give you the time and ability to TAKE ACTION on YOUR OWN LIFE

and the AWARENESS of the things you may have been ASKED by others or promised that you meant to make a priority.

FOR THE NEXT 24 HOURS... I am going to
ROCK THE SPACE I'M IN
by RESPONDING with Clarity
(and answers)
to those who have had to ASK me more than once to follow through on a request.

Love and Delight

CLARITY of Purpose
and Peace of Mind,
to you
and those you love,
JOY

Bordering On Magnificent Hearing YES!

I said YES when a friend asked to hang out
and eat steaks at his office tonight.

I Heard "YES" Repeatedly Tonight.

Will you please play that song again? ..Yes.

Can you show me how that dance move goes?. . .Yes.

Would you tell me what you think about...? . . .Yes.

Sing that a little louder? ....Yes.

Do you think I can make this a better year...YES Definitely!.

Give me a ride home? Sure.


How do YOU feel when someone says YES to you???


There is an amazing transformation that can occur when someone affirms you.


FOR ME...
There is FORWARD movement
when there is a POSITIVE response to small requests.

FOR ME...
Seemingly small thoughts that are affirmed
GROW into bigger actions taken.

FOR ME...
Being given the tools to succeed,
and having my goals and desires believed in,
and listening to a variety of music I like,
makes me feel HOT,
and Capable,
and Smart.

I have had MAJOR successes in the past week
and the past few months.

But while they were GENIUS...
they were mostly for others.

When I hear YES.

It reminds me,
and drives me to use that same GENIUS
FOR MYSELF!

Just a reminder...
REMEMBER TO SAY YES!!!!!

REMEMBER that saying YES can create better
and more amazing things in your life.

Especially when you say YES to yourself.

Let's Rock the Space We're In,
by saying YES to ourselves,
and by spending time with those who
say YES!

Love and Peace of mind,
DELIGHT, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you Love,
JOY