Bordering On Magnificent PLAN B (have one)

Bordering On Magnificent CONTRIBUTIONS

What can I contribute?

What do I have to offer today?

What have I given in the past?

What difference
does the contributions you have given
in the past
make in the long run?????

When someone dies,or moves away, or changes jobs,
their personal history dies with them for the most part.

Some times we kid ourselves into thinking that
the things that we do will be remembered after we are gone...

For the most part no one else really knows your history...
everyone is too busy with their own lives to remember the highlights of
even their closest companions on the earth,
or to discuss them for very long after their death,
or even while they are still alive and kickin'!

How often do you say
"REMEMBER WHEN YOU..."
or
"REMEMBER THE TIME WE..."
or
"REMEMBER THE WAY_______ USED TO_________"
(fill in the blanks with your own favorite memories)

Why do people continue to buy and give "default" gifts for others like
bath soaps and body gels and things that are scented and flowery and stuff
with out even knowing the scents and things that others like or really dislike and are even allergic to???

Isn't a real gift
one that leaves the person feeling that they are really
"known"

Wouldn't we do better to invest more time with our loved ones
getting to know them better and continuing to make memories,
than to waste money and time finding stuff that they will only want to re-gift?

I am not the best at remembering details,
but I want to Rock The Space I'm In with others
by taking the time to be a
"witness to their lives" and their personal history,
even if it is just sharing a remembrance of one of their personal successes from the past to let them know that their awesomeness has not been forgotten!

Scott, Tina, Frank, Jim, Victor,Rob D, Derrek,Jeff, Rob,Norman,Ralph,Steve,Nader,Jim,
and also my other awesome friend Dave.

These are some of the amazing people who "came before" and accomplished great things working as a team, and who often spoke of the mighty exploits of those that came before them.

Who is the band of warriors in your life that you have shared mighty exploits with???
They could be in your Family, Friendships, Business Partners, or Volunteer Groups.

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN by calling one or two of them up today, and remind them of their place in your history and in your heart.

Post a comment here about one of YOUR warrior friends
so we can all celebrate them.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent RESPECT

Who doesn't want to be liked?

Being liked seems to be near,
or at the top of many peoples lists.

Bob Burg says
"People will do business with those that they know. like, and trust."

Being liked is a good thing.

But I have also found in my many years
"Rocking The Space I'm In". . .
that people in work situations at their job,
often worry about being liked by everyone,
rather than being respected by the essential people.

Who do you RESPECT where you work?
We should show respect to everyone,
but who are the essential people
that you admire and actually have respect for?

These are generally those who are problem solvers not blamers.

This is the person who gives you the TOOLS and INFORMATION
to do the job successfully.

This person does not walk in "mouth first"
but rather; enters a situation,
with their eyes and ears, observing...
usually many minutes before they are even noticed.

You do not find them gossiping about others,
because they are far to busy
finding solutions and working on situations.
The person who is worthy of RESPECT
is the one who will go TO you with a concern.

They are the ones who invite comments
which seek resolution or solutions,
they are not into negative whining and pessimism.

I want to be more and more each day
a person who is worthy of respect
by the way I RESPECT others.

I don't really want to be "liked" by everyone...
I desire and earn the respect
of the essential people in my life
by growing each day,
and learning from what those whom I respect
have taught me over the years.

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN BY:
RESPECTING the Essential ones in your life,
AND RESPECTING YOURSELF!!!
REMEMBER...
You are NOT 5 years old!
You can not "Get in Trouble" at work...
You can only get "fired"

Loose the fear!!!
Live Fully!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent MOVEMENT

Are you constantly moving???
Are you always going places but not quite getting somewhere?
Some jobs entail moving or driving or traveling.
Even the job of being a mom has a lot to do with
being everywhere at once.

A really great way to move is Bike Riding.

Riding a bicycle in one direction,
ending up somewhere,
and turning around and riding straight back.
over and over
every day,
is a good way to break the flow of "running around"

By doing this,
you can get used to looking for the bumps in the road,
as well as observing the same scenery change every day.

You will begin to build up momentum and endurance each day,
and you may even begin to SWEAT!

(see prior posts about enjoying and celebrating SWEAT)

I know that "Running around in circles" as many people I have met call it...
gives about the same results in life as "Spinning our wheels".

I have personally seen the results of riding for endurance and speed,
and gradually beating my own best time, each time.
I believe this is worth getting up early for...
before the traffic clogs the roads...
and before others get in their cars
and begin "Spinning their Wheels"...

I recommend using a a walkman,
(ooops!!! I meant an MP3 player or IPOD I guess
I still remember cassette players)

Anyway... bring along some music that supports your goals and dreams,
even if it is the same songs every day!

I am getting back into this practice of riding in a straight line,
early in the morning,
for endurance and speed and conditioning my physical body
to run a clearly defined race
instead of just
"Running to the buffet to get another plate of crazy"

"For the next 3 to 5 business days"
ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN by
Moving With Purpose!
And let me know what this
"Empty Box Time" does for you!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering on Magnificent LIGHT

Who is it that makes your eyes light up??????????

Have you ever had someone's eyes "Light Up"
when YOU walked into a room???

Some People say that this is a universal experience needed for the very HEALTH of kids
and really all human beings

YESTERDAY at the day job,
I witnessed the mom of a new born (actually a 3 month old)

Looking at her son,
and smiling at him,

and talking to him,
and in a day and age where many moms are content
to plunk a dvd player in front of the face of a child
who is facing "away from them" in a stroller....
. . .THIS MOM...was ENGAGED with her baby!!!

She was letting him know his "SPACE IN THIS WORLD"

And by choosing to interact with him
in such an animated and loving way,
she is affirming that he is HUGE in HER world...
AND in THIS world!

He is SEEING and HEARING from this awesome mom,
that he is
LOVED
VALUABLE
WORTHWHILE
and NOT ALONE!

Eye contact is essential to growing a relationship.

Today...
Rock The Space You're In
by making eye contact
with
Your friends
your family
your kids
and yes even your clients and customers.

See if it makes a difference,
and then tell me about it!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

STRANGERS

Strangers meet and then they are not necessarily strangers any longer.
They may become acquaintances.
Then they may even become friends.
Sometimes they may even become loved ones.

It all depends on our perspective
as to what qualifies someone
to hold the position in our life that we give them.

Sometimes people will fill a certain spot in your life
that wasn't ever filled before.
Like a B.F.F. (Best Friend Forever)

Or you will meet someone who is a kindred spirit,
a person you can feel comfortable and happy with
as you share things that you are both excited about,
sometimes not even needing to talk,
sometimes finishing each others sentences
or even blurting out the same thing at the same time,

Maybe it is a person that holds a special place in your heart
just because they are fun to be with.
This is the person who helps you get away from it all by being
not only comic relief,but has common life experiences,
and may be a break from thinking about the daily chores of life.

Sometimes a person is special
just because of what you go through together, or get through together.
They may be the only person to "be there" when others aren't.

People will usually tell you
what part of the space they are in
that they want you to share.

Listen.

Not everyone is meant to be
in the same space,
at the same time.

Make an agreement with yourself to be clear
about what you want in a friendship.

If it is freedom, be honest.
If it is wanting a family to belong to...say so.
If you are just looking for fun and friendship,
don't play as if you want more.

This is not about male and female relationships exclusively,
it is about choosing to have people in your life,
and being in others lives,
in a way that is the best for everyone.

When you stay too long in something,
it can create resentment.
Bitterness can start to grow from unfulfilled
or unspoken expectations.

This is also what I call
"Going to get another plate of crazy from the buffet"

For the next 48 hours
ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN
by writing down the kind of person or persons
you would like to be friends with.

Think of the qualities
you would like to have in your traveling companions
on this life journey...

and also think about the personal qualities and interests
you would like to develop and share with others from your own life.

Life can be much better as you get clarity about
what you want,
and begin to attract those relationships you genuinely desire,
and lovingly let go of those which no longer are
or never were working.

Life is too short to simply exist.
Better to be in a space of your own and be content,
than sharing space out of habit.
Rock The Space You're In,
with those you truly want to do life with.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent HEALTH

I am enjoying SUMMER!

I have not yet given in to the thought that with cooler weather arriving

winter is also waiting in the wings.

Thinking way ahead is not my particular skill set.

I tend to live in the moment
or "Rock the Space I'm In"...now.

but I've developed an appreciation for wanting more
and planning for a future.

By living with less clutter,
there is room to do the really important
and even the more enjoyable things with my time.

We spent the evening with good people last night and even met some new ones.
After working hard all day,
I enjoyed the pleasure of relaxing with others.

Conversation yesterday at "the day job" about non essentials
such as "more clothing"
and "More Clutter" . . .
Conversation last night
about peoples lives and interests.

Health requires a balance.

talking...and quiet
movement...and stillness
clothing and no clothing. . .
no. . .
really.

There is a time for everything.
Even a time for feeling angry, and sad and fed up.
It is SO O.K. to speak out about the things
that frustrate hurt or just bug you.
It's actually MORE than O.K.
It is essential to HEALTH
to speak the truth.

I am finding that it is best to speak out to one
who can actually DO something about the situation.
Best of all to speak the truth
to the person who is creating the situation.

I am still experimenting and growing in this...
I've been better at letting it roll off.
But then again,
I have been putting some of the 74 pounds I lost 3 years ago,
back on.

SO. . .no more letting things "roll off"

Things really don't just roll off to "nowhere"
...they eventually roll under your skin and create discomfort...
and I believe...
Weight.

Lets "Rock The Space We're In" TODAY
by saying what we feel
and what we mean...
and letting the chips fall where they may.

I'm Finding that:

Those that love us will love and respect and understand us better,

those that don't
will be too busy
"getting themselves another plate of crazy from the buffet"
to care.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent INDIFFERENCE

What is the opposite of LOVE?

Most people would answer HATE.

I read this thought from the book
The Four Hour Work Week and TOTALY agree.
The opposite of LOVE is NOT "hate"

The opposite of LOVE, is INDIFFERENCE!

You can be passionate about hating someone.
You can be passionate about disagreeing with someone.

Either of these is preferable to being treated with indifference.

When we disregard others
when we act with indifference,
we are making a physical statement about their worth in our eyes,
when we Physically choose not to look at or acknowledge someone's presence,
we are sending the message that they do not exist in our space.

This can be a useful way to clear the space you're in
of people and energy that is not genuine or beneficial
especially when you have exhausted all other means of creating
a healthy space to rock.

It should not, however, be the first choice in most cases.

Giving people an OPEN door to walk in through can start with a smile,
or a sincere complement,
or simply acknowledging that we are glad
to be sharing space and even
literally breathing the same air.
I imagine that even those miners
who have been trapped for HOW MANY DAYS NOW?
are grateful for the companionship of those around them.


Who can we give that gift to????
How about THE NEXT PERSON WE ENCOUNTER AFTER READING THIS?

Rock the space you're in by focusing on someone you are sharing
your space at work at home at school
or the line at the grocery store with.


Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent

Just a thought. . .

Do you have a special phrase or saying that is uniquely YOU?

Go to: www.GoDaddy.com and Purchase the domain name for about $9.00.

That's it.

Just buy your favorite saying if it is available as a .com

You don't have to pay extra for hosting or anything...
You don't even have to use it right now...
but OWN your own words and ideas TODAY.

You can BE your own "Brand"

Much better to "Be You" than anything in this world.
This world needs YOU to:
ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN
By BEING YOURSELF!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent LIVING

Some people have alot. . .
some people have less. . .

I know some people who do real well
on less...
They have a way of making the most of everything.

I've had more
and not known what to do with it...
...how to make it last.

I've had less. . . .
and made it work.

Right now. . .
I Want More!

More is for doing things with. . .
like paying off debts and the kindnesses of others over the years.

More is for. . getting to be on the giving end
instead of merely trying to make the ends meet.

More is for having More than enough
for enjoying good food (like sushi) and adventures,
More comes in handy for starting new things (like a business)
and celebrating what was
(like taking a vacation with family or old friends)

What would I DO with MORE?

I would spend More of my time
in worth-while ways...
EVERYDAY.

I would spend More of my time with the people I love.

I will have More
by spending less time each day on unworthy pursuits.

I will have MORE by doing what I am on the planet for...

I will have MORE in less time
by working 4 hours a week on something truly meaningful.


PLEASE READ THE BOOK:

THE 4 HOUR WORK WEEK
by Timothy Ferriss

WHY ARE PEOPLE AFRAID TO SAY THEY WANT MORE?

MORE IS GOOD!

WHAT WILL YOU DO WITH YOUR MORE ? ? ? ? ?

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN!
by reading that book,
and by Wanting and Creating MORE in your life.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy