Bordering On Magnificent MOVEMENT

Are you constantly moving???
Are you always going places but not quite getting somewhere?
Some jobs entail moving or driving or traveling.
Even the job of being a mom has a lot to do with
being everywhere at once.

A really great way to move is Bike Riding.

Riding a bicycle in one direction,
ending up somewhere,
and turning around and riding straight back.
over and over
every day,
is a good way to break the flow of "running around"

By doing this,
you can get used to looking for the bumps in the road,
as well as observing the same scenery change every day.

You will begin to build up momentum and endurance each day,
and you may even begin to SWEAT!

(see prior posts about enjoying and celebrating SWEAT)

I know that "Running around in circles" as many people I have met call it...
gives about the same results in life as "Spinning our wheels".

I have personally seen the results of riding for endurance and speed,
and gradually beating my own best time, each time.
I believe this is worth getting up early for...
before the traffic clogs the roads...
and before others get in their cars
and begin "Spinning their Wheels"...

I recommend using a a walkman,
(ooops!!! I meant an MP3 player or IPOD I guess
I still remember cassette players)

Anyway... bring along some music that supports your goals and dreams,
even if it is the same songs every day!

I am getting back into this practice of riding in a straight line,
early in the morning,
for endurance and speed and conditioning my physical body
to run a clearly defined race
instead of just
"Running to the buffet to get another plate of crazy"

"For the next 3 to 5 business days"
ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN by
Moving With Purpose!
And let me know what this
"Empty Box Time" does for you!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering on Magnificent LIGHT

Who is it that makes your eyes light up??????????

Have you ever had someone's eyes "Light Up"
when YOU walked into a room???

Some People say that this is a universal experience needed for the very HEALTH of kids
and really all human beings

YESTERDAY at the day job,
I witnessed the mom of a new born (actually a 3 month old)

Looking at her son,
and smiling at him,

and talking to him,
and in a day and age where many moms are content
to plunk a dvd player in front of the face of a child
who is facing "away from them" in a stroller....
. . .THIS MOM...was ENGAGED with her baby!!!

She was letting him know his "SPACE IN THIS WORLD"

And by choosing to interact with him
in such an animated and loving way,
she is affirming that he is HUGE in HER world...
AND in THIS world!

He is SEEING and HEARING from this awesome mom,
that he is
LOVED
VALUABLE
WORTHWHILE
and NOT ALONE!

Eye contact is essential to growing a relationship.

Today...
Rock The Space You're In
by making eye contact
with
Your friends
your family
your kids
and yes even your clients and customers.

See if it makes a difference,
and then tell me about it!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

STRANGERS

Strangers meet and then they are not necessarily strangers any longer.
They may become acquaintances.
Then they may even become friends.
Sometimes they may even become loved ones.

It all depends on our perspective
as to what qualifies someone
to hold the position in our life that we give them.

Sometimes people will fill a certain spot in your life
that wasn't ever filled before.
Like a B.F.F. (Best Friend Forever)

Or you will meet someone who is a kindred spirit,
a person you can feel comfortable and happy with
as you share things that you are both excited about,
sometimes not even needing to talk,
sometimes finishing each others sentences
or even blurting out the same thing at the same time,

Maybe it is a person that holds a special place in your heart
just because they are fun to be with.
This is the person who helps you get away from it all by being
not only comic relief,but has common life experiences,
and may be a break from thinking about the daily chores of life.

Sometimes a person is special
just because of what you go through together, or get through together.
They may be the only person to "be there" when others aren't.

People will usually tell you
what part of the space they are in
that they want you to share.

Listen.

Not everyone is meant to be
in the same space,
at the same time.

Make an agreement with yourself to be clear
about what you want in a friendship.

If it is freedom, be honest.
If it is wanting a family to belong to...say so.
If you are just looking for fun and friendship,
don't play as if you want more.

This is not about male and female relationships exclusively,
it is about choosing to have people in your life,
and being in others lives,
in a way that is the best for everyone.

When you stay too long in something,
it can create resentment.
Bitterness can start to grow from unfulfilled
or unspoken expectations.

This is also what I call
"Going to get another plate of crazy from the buffet"

For the next 48 hours
ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN
by writing down the kind of person or persons
you would like to be friends with.

Think of the qualities
you would like to have in your traveling companions
on this life journey...

and also think about the personal qualities and interests
you would like to develop and share with others from your own life.

Life can be much better as you get clarity about
what you want,
and begin to attract those relationships you genuinely desire,
and lovingly let go of those which no longer are
or never were working.

Life is too short to simply exist.
Better to be in a space of your own and be content,
than sharing space out of habit.
Rock The Space You're In,
with those you truly want to do life with.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent HEALTH

I am enjoying SUMMER!

I have not yet given in to the thought that with cooler weather arriving

winter is also waiting in the wings.

Thinking way ahead is not my particular skill set.

I tend to live in the moment
or "Rock the Space I'm In"...now.

but I've developed an appreciation for wanting more
and planning for a future.

By living with less clutter,
there is room to do the really important
and even the more enjoyable things with my time.

We spent the evening with good people last night and even met some new ones.
After working hard all day,
I enjoyed the pleasure of relaxing with others.

Conversation yesterday at "the day job" about non essentials
such as "more clothing"
and "More Clutter" . . .
Conversation last night
about peoples lives and interests.

Health requires a balance.

talking...and quiet
movement...and stillness
clothing and no clothing. . .
no. . .
really.

There is a time for everything.
Even a time for feeling angry, and sad and fed up.
It is SO O.K. to speak out about the things
that frustrate hurt or just bug you.
It's actually MORE than O.K.
It is essential to HEALTH
to speak the truth.

I am finding that it is best to speak out to one
who can actually DO something about the situation.
Best of all to speak the truth
to the person who is creating the situation.

I am still experimenting and growing in this...
I've been better at letting it roll off.
But then again,
I have been putting some of the 74 pounds I lost 3 years ago,
back on.

SO. . .no more letting things "roll off"

Things really don't just roll off to "nowhere"
...they eventually roll under your skin and create discomfort...
and I believe...
Weight.

Lets "Rock The Space We're In" TODAY
by saying what we feel
and what we mean...
and letting the chips fall where they may.

I'm Finding that:

Those that love us will love and respect and understand us better,

those that don't
will be too busy
"getting themselves another plate of crazy from the buffet"
to care.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent INDIFFERENCE

What is the opposite of LOVE?

Most people would answer HATE.

I read this thought from the book
The Four Hour Work Week and TOTALY agree.
The opposite of LOVE is NOT "hate"

The opposite of LOVE, is INDIFFERENCE!

You can be passionate about hating someone.
You can be passionate about disagreeing with someone.

Either of these is preferable to being treated with indifference.

When we disregard others
when we act with indifference,
we are making a physical statement about their worth in our eyes,
when we Physically choose not to look at or acknowledge someone's presence,
we are sending the message that they do not exist in our space.

This can be a useful way to clear the space you're in
of people and energy that is not genuine or beneficial
especially when you have exhausted all other means of creating
a healthy space to rock.

It should not, however, be the first choice in most cases.

Giving people an OPEN door to walk in through can start with a smile,
or a sincere complement,
or simply acknowledging that we are glad
to be sharing space and even
literally breathing the same air.
I imagine that even those miners
who have been trapped for HOW MANY DAYS NOW?
are grateful for the companionship of those around them.


Who can we give that gift to????
How about THE NEXT PERSON WE ENCOUNTER AFTER READING THIS?

Rock the space you're in by focusing on someone you are sharing
your space at work at home at school
or the line at the grocery store with.


Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent

Just a thought. . .

Do you have a special phrase or saying that is uniquely YOU?

Go to: www.GoDaddy.com and Purchase the domain name for about $9.00.

That's it.

Just buy your favorite saying if it is available as a .com

You don't have to pay extra for hosting or anything...
You don't even have to use it right now...
but OWN your own words and ideas TODAY.

You can BE your own "Brand"

Much better to "Be You" than anything in this world.
This world needs YOU to:
ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN
By BEING YOURSELF!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent LIVING

Some people have alot. . .
some people have less. . .

I know some people who do real well
on less...
They have a way of making the most of everything.

I've had more
and not known what to do with it...
...how to make it last.

I've had less. . . .
and made it work.

Right now. . .
I Want More!

More is for doing things with. . .
like paying off debts and the kindnesses of others over the years.

More is for. . getting to be on the giving end
instead of merely trying to make the ends meet.

More is for having More than enough
for enjoying good food (like sushi) and adventures,
More comes in handy for starting new things (like a business)
and celebrating what was
(like taking a vacation with family or old friends)

What would I DO with MORE?

I would spend More of my time
in worth-while ways...
EVERYDAY.

I would spend More of my time with the people I love.

I will have More
by spending less time each day on unworthy pursuits.

I will have MORE by doing what I am on the planet for...

I will have MORE in less time
by working 4 hours a week on something truly meaningful.


PLEASE READ THE BOOK:

THE 4 HOUR WORK WEEK
by Timothy Ferriss

WHY ARE PEOPLE AFRAID TO SAY THEY WANT MORE?

MORE IS GOOD!

WHAT WILL YOU DO WITH YOUR MORE ? ? ? ? ?

ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN!
by reading that book,
and by Wanting and Creating MORE in your life.

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
Joy

Bordering On Magnificent QUITTING

When is QUITTING a good thing???

How about quitting
when you are heading
back to the buffet
"to get yourself another plate of crazy"?

Perhaps when we are doing
the same thing
for the GAZILLIONTH time...
even if it isn't a bad thing,
just THE SAME THING
...again...
it MAY be time to stop
and find a new thing.

Reaching(mindlessly)
for that can of Diet Coke?
for that debit card?
for that same tired CD?
for another lite beer?
Have that SAME "burgerlunch" yesterday, and the day before,and the day before?

We all do it.

We get comfortable
with the sameness.

We may even always hang out with the same people,
to the exclusion of meeting
some of the other
zillion and a half other
fascinating and amazing
humans on the planet.

Same Job?
Change how you act there.

Same Chores?
Choose to do them at a different time. Maybe 2a.m.

Same Music?
Change the station.
Borrow CD's from the Local Library.

Same Four Walls? PAINT ONE TURQUOISE OR RED OR PINK.

Same food?
TRY DRAGON PALACE Chinese
in Tinley Park
for a whole week.
(and eat it with chopsticks!)

Shake it up baby!

LET'S ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN
by Doing SOME-THINGS Different!

And PLEASE
Let me know what YOU did!

Love and Peace of mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
JOY

Bordering On Magnificent PERCEPTION

5 people can look at the same thing and each see it differently.
They could all look at the same situation
and see different posibilities in it
or different outcomes to it
based on their own experiences or feelings.

You have all heard someone speak of
"seeing the glass as half full or half empty",
usually meant to seperate the "positive" people from the "negative" ones.

I really don't like things that seperate humans so much from each other...
I LOVE the idea that we all could
put aside our own fears and need to win or be "right"
and just really Listen to each others HEARTS...
and HEAR their opinions,
or beliefs,
or what they are feeling...
and not be afraid of it or feel the need to fix it...
but just to be open to understanding and valuing
the ideas that are a part of who they are.

I can jump in before I have fully heard what someone is saying
and totally miss the point
or the heart of what they needed to share.

I am sorry for the times I have done that
to any of you that I know well.
I used to do it more often because as a kid
I always felt the need to get in a good defence
before i got a beating.

When People feel misunderstood or picked on for a long time
they tend to do this.
I believe that LOVE and UNDERSTANDING
can help us all
to REALLY LISTEN, AND also REALLY BE HEARD.

We need both,
We ALL NEED to LET OUR SPIRIT HAVE A VOICE
and we can all give each other the gift
of being valued and REALLY HEARD.

LET'S ROCK THE SPACE WE'RE IN THIS WEEK
BY SPEAKING OUT WHAT WE FEEL AND THINK,
AND REALLY GETTING MORE COMFORTABLE
WITH LISTENING TO THE HEART AND VOICE OF THOSE AROUND US...
(EVEN OLDER PEOPLE AND KIDS)

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
JOY

Bordering On Magnificent INSPIRATION

Sasquatch music festival 2009 - Guy starts dance party

What did you think of this guy???
Just ONE Person...doing his thing...
and HUNDREDS of people join in!

WHAT COULD YOU or I START or JOIN???
And what could happen if we did our own thing,
that we are here to do,
out loud,
in public
just because it's what we are here for...
and it gave others FREEDOM...
To join in our thing...
or start something NEW on their own.

It could be something seemingly silly to others,
or it could be something seriously needed for others...
either way,
All it takes is ONE to start to:
ROCK THE SPACE YOU'RE IN!

Love and Peace of Mind,
Delight, and Clarity of Purpose,
to you and those you love,
JOY